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Are there some things you simply never say to your partner?

(12 Posts)
OrmIrian Mon 26-Feb-07 13:01:10

My DH is being a complete ar*ehole atm!!! His poxy stupid football team is facing relegation and he is plunged into gloom, depression and bad-temper. Everything the kids did yesterday made him cross and I got told off once!!! I have some sympathy as I know it means a lot to him but I really really want him to snap out of it and get a grip. He says that 'real' footie fans are those whose teams have bad times - anyone can support the Man U's of this world but only real fans experience the heartache and the ups and downs blah blah... and similar such boll*cks!! But no matter how awful he gets I simply would never say.....

'For crying out loud it's just a game!!' I simply wouldn't - he knows it is and he admits he's crazy but nothing will ever change him. He'd be so hurt if I said that. Stupid but there it is.

The other thing I would never say is'

'Your father was a selfish git who treated you and your mother like dirt and you really should get over his death and get to grips with the people (his mum and sisters) that you've got left' Beleive me his dad was a waste of space but he can't see it.

Anyone got some things that you really want to say sometimes but you would never dare unless you really wanted your relationship to go pear-shaped? Verbal skeletons in the closet?

snowleopard Mon 26-Feb-07 13:02:41

I really can't think of anything I would never say!

The poor man.

SturdyAngel Mon 26-Feb-07 13:03:51

Your mum is a vile, vicious, evil manipulative old witch.

Oh wait, I did say that....

Twinkie1 Mon 26-Feb-07 13:04:55

Your sister is gay and your brother and his new dodgy girlfriend are selfish arseholes and have a filthy house and I never ever want to set foot in it and if your other brother puts me down again because my brain is not as humungus as his I will tell him to poke it up his arse and inform him that I earn more than him working my piddly 2 days a week compared to his full time fulfilling position so although I may be a bit stupid and not great at scrabble I don't have to whinge about not being able to afford things and wear dodgy clothes.

There got that off of my chest!!

FluffyMummy123 Mon 26-Feb-07 13:05:16

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Bamzooki Mon 26-Feb-07 13:05:23

Er - in our case, I'm reserving 'You are acting like your mother' for a time when he really deserves it. He will be beyond shocked, so it would only be used in extremis!

UnquietDad Mon 26-Feb-07 13:05:50

"you look fat"

not really

southeastastra Mon 26-Feb-07 13:07:56

i tell mine football is a pointless game all the time, (he's a spurs supporter!) and i say if you have to pick between me and football what would it be? he has to think about that one

OrmIrian Mon 26-Feb-07 13:11:38

Ah southeastastra - I know he'd pick me but he'd be so miserable afterwards that I don't think I'd want him.....

OrmIrian Mon 26-Feb-07 13:12:01

uqd - no the 'f' word please....

HappyDaddy Mon 26-Feb-07 13:16:15

Wives come and go but your team will be there for you for life.

Nothing we'd never say, we frequently say everything to each other!!

ludaloo Mon 26-Feb-07 13:17:39


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