I don't know where to unjumble the thoughts to write this down so I apologise.
I feel a wreck atm-
I split with an awful man 3 years ago after ten years together and a ds.
I managed to pick myself up an start again an become stronger.
I met a lovely man 9 months ago , we now live together, he is everything my ex wasn't.
But I am always worrying I don't compare to his ex who he split with a second time last year after she had cheated on him.
On a separate note my father who is now retired and has no financial or in fact any worries aside from health niggles- always seems to use me as a verbal punchbag when things go wrong.
He kindly offered to take an collect my son from school daily but now almost makes it feel too much with a health niggle.
His 25 yr relationship with his wife (my mother walked out on us all when I was 7) has always been v v rocky, no love etc.when it goes wrong I seem to walk into it and become the person he rants and raves at about his life.yet from my position and view and all the people around him he has a fantastic retirement , with no worries. But his behaviour is toxic an draining to my sibling and I.every small hurdle is s drama and we gotta hear it.
I've never rang him or seen him happy with no issues.
My job is ok but it's in a public service so very stressful, fast paced an can be dangerous.im not enjoying the job anymore though but my position , pay and conditions make it hard for me to leave.
I'm now also trying to start diy divorce proceedings but any interaction with the ex over anything ends in bitter words between us.
He's got a new gf and ready made family and doesn't want to contribute his time or monies correctly.
I'm just so bloody angry and upset all of the time of late.
I should be at a happier point in my life but just lately I wanna be left alone.just do what I want.im even wondering if I'm fixed enough to continue the work/effort an energy required for a relationship.
I just feel so broken, I'm irritable , the slightest thing sends me off on a rant or irritable - everywhere I look it just seems better for everyone else.
I know I have s.a.d in winter months but this is on top of that.
Anyone get insight as to what's happening to me it my thoughts and feelings? I've had to make an excuse up today not to go into work as I just can't face it.
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Gohackyourself · 30/01/2017 11:30
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