Talk

Advanced search

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support.

AIBU to be hoppping mad ( if i had the energy that is)

(11 Posts)
1to10andstartagain Sun 29-Jan-17 15:58:19

so mother of 2 , one is 2 , other 9 . ( plus older sons friend for two night sleepover).

DP told me after sleepover arranged that he wouldnt be home on friday night as he was going out straight from work then drivng to see another friend for weekend . not home till sunday afternoon .
im mad because he didn't put in calender so i didnt know ( i could have gone to friends with children)

i work 3 days a week so weekends are precious family time , he often isnt home till just before bedtime, now he has called to say stuck in traffic so the meal we had planned to take children to wont happen and im scrabbling in freezer to get a meal together.

i hate him going away at weekends , have no family nearby to help out and feel envious of my seperated friends who get a day or weekend off

anyone else feeling my pain ?

ImperialBlether Sun 29-Jan-17 16:00:19

It sounds as though he's living like a single man. How come he goes off for weekends on his own - is that something he does often?

1to10andstartagain Sun 29-Jan-17 16:19:58

no not often but when he does its bloody hard work and it was the two nights out arranged that made me mad . also the 4 days stag do he is going on in summer ( thats a holiday in my book) and wedding with no children invited . we have no one who we can leave children with so thats another weekend he will be away , we are arguing a lot about this , I think he thinks because other parents get weekends away he can do it ( without me) but as i say we have no families who can help out and youngest is only 2

fed up of getting angry about this

ImperialBlether Sun 29-Jan-17 16:26:24

He sounds completely selfish. When you have children everything changes - it sounds as though he just doesn't get that.

How do you get on when he is home?

1to10andstartagain Sun 29-Jan-17 16:47:27

hes just come back, i am so tired and mad that i cant talk to him , apparently he had a lovely time going out with friend and his partner and her friends !!!!!!!!! meals drinking ! im looking forward to seeing facebook posts of him with his arms round some women ( oh didn't i mention that ? yes that was a barbque and women was friends sister so that's ok , isnt it)

honestly

1to10andstartagain Sun 29-Jan-17 17:26:25

when he is home and its just us we get on great , normal niggles with children .... but i always feel he is looking out for himself i.e if we go out he has to be the one drinking , leaving me to drive or stay sober to get up with children .

RiceCrispieTreats Sun 29-Jan-17 17:42:11

He's selfish.

RiceCrispieTreats Sun 29-Jan-17 17:43:03

Selfish people are not good partners.

Stopmithering Sun 29-Jan-17 17:48:48

Do you ever get weekends away?
If not, get organising.
Think he owes you.

1to10andstartagain Sun 29-Jan-17 17:51:30

i know , as you can tell i have a lot of things im not happy about but he makes me feel a failure for not waving him off with a smile and " have a good time darling " then not welcoming him home.

does anyone agree with him that other men can have weekends away with out there partners making a fuss ( many of his friends dont have children or have extensive family members who care for children so there parents can go away together , that isnt us , i wish it was , but it isnt

i feel like leaving but i love my children and would miss them a lot

kittybiscuits Sun 29-Jan-17 17:54:47

I don't think you'd have to miss them much because I doubt they would be seeing dad very often. The way he treats you is despicable. And his breezing through it technique would make me want to kill him.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now