DH has lost all sexual desire for me. We are mid 30s. He admits it feels "stale" now after ten years married but also that he doesn't think about sex in general for weeks/ months at a time.
It has been 2 months now since we've had sex. This is hard enough for me, but harder is that because he seems to have no sexual feelings at all now, it's been much longer than that since I felt from his actions that he desired me/ felt horny/ whatever you want to call it!
When we do have sex, it's usually because we've spoken about this and I know he hates the way it makes me feel. But I'm not begging for sex and the sex that comes after talks like this is really "sad" sex! I'm begging for a sexual husband who would send a cheeky text, or whisper something in my ear in public or make it clear he really wants me.
I really look after myself, size 6-8, very athletic and no DC so lots of time for health/ fitness/ beauty. So things haven't changed there, if improved since we've gotten older and had more disposable income.
I won't list them all but I have tried so many different things that we've discussed and something might work for a week or so but then we end up back here. He says it upsets him to see how it affects me and he "hasn't lost hope that one day it will come back". I feel like you need to do things to make it come back though otherwise it never will. He says he doesn't want to fake feeling like that because it feels forced. He will NOT go to a doctor to check hormones, general health etc! Flat out refusal every time this is discussed.
I'm writing this because recently I have started to lose some of the desire I feel for him. I hate this :-( I want to fix it all before it's gone in both of us for good!
Any helpful experiences?
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Has anyone ever managed to get passion and desire back into their relationship after a situation like this?
Stanley38 · 29/01/2017 11:01
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