Hi I'm writing here because I don't feel like I can talk about this with anyone in RL...
Background, married with 2 DC. Generally a really great marriage, hubs has been supportive and we have lots of fun and laughs together. BUT... about 2 years ago I found visits to a sex chat site on the family pc. There was also payment to this website in hubbys account over a period of 6 months. He denied using it and said he thought it was his pc savvy ex best mate trying to wreck our marriage - this friend was a tosser who used to scrounge off my hubby and had used his debit card/account details in the past (MIL confirmed this) and was very jealous of me when I came along. This person sees me as the reason for hubs and him falling out, when actually hubby just had enough of him. I believed my husband and life went on as normal. Fast forward about 6 months and I found a snapchat picture of a naked girl (not just porn-she looked too normal) on hubbys phone- he again said it was ex friend messing with him. Again I said ok. A couple of days ago I found visits on the laptop to a site for sex chat and escorts and we had the same talk... I did find some weird entry on the code writing platform on the laptop from a date and time when we were both together and miles away from said laptop so I'm really torn... it looks like someone has accessed our computer remotely. But I have also since found hubby has been keeping a small financial issue from me (a credit card had a missed payment)- he says it's because I've been stressed and he didn't want to worry me. He's been working away every week for a couple of months so I don't know what the hell to think. He's been very good at calling me regularly etc but the seed of doubt is definitely there... I love him so much and he's been such a supportive wonderful man- treated me and the kids so well but I don't want to be an idiot. What the hell do I do?!
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Should I trust hubby?
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YumyumPB · 28/01/2017 20:06
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