My dp has had some bad news at work recently. They are making huge pay cuts and he's due to lose about £6000 a year in wages. Not only does he have to deal with the stress of how this will effect him, but he's a manager so is also having to support his staff through this. The union are involved and they are trying to sort it out but it's all doom and gloom at work and he's so miserable and distant. I've offered to go back to work to make up the money he's due to lose but he isn't keen on the idea as he doesn't want to pay someone else to look after our daughter when I'm perfectly capable. When he needs to talk about it I listen. I've tried to give him some space when he doesn't want to engage with me. He's still a great hands on dad but he hasn't been all the pleasant to me. Just really snappy and dismissive. I don't know what else I can do. We are sort of co existing at the moment. Our sex life has suffered too. I can understand that's probably the last thing on his mind right now. I just feel really un important to him right now. I don't really know what else I can do. But this isn't about me. I know it's not intentional. It's a really horrible atmosphere at home like I'm treading on eggshells. What else can I do? I guess I just needed to write it all down as I'm feeling pretty crap about it all. We are getting married in 4 months time but I'm not excited about it with things the way they are. He's certainly not interested in wedding plans with everything else going on.
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