My husband slam/hit me infront of our children. One of them is a child with special needs who jumped on me screeming and crying and telling him to go away. Another one was crying all the time. What a basterd! He has done this as we had a bad argument and i wanted to go upstair, so he did not let me, i pushed him and he hit me. I wanted to leave the house, he did not let me and locked the door! All in front screaming kids!! After this he wanted to talk and apologize. What to talk more? I refused. He left home telling the kids that is my fault as i wanted to push him through the stairs. Not to forget that he has more then 100 kg and i have 40. Unfortunately, this is not first time and yes we went already through the relation therapy that i found really not nice as i realized that he accused me for all. Does anyone has the similar experience?
They don't stop, that's all I can say. After a big scary episode, they slope off to punish you then test you when they come back to see if they can do it again.
His attitude is that he needs to control you and he will use physical force to do it, amongst other things. Kind men don't do that. It's fundamental to their nature and unchangeable (through therapy or you begging or the children crying). Infact, any attempts to 'change' him eg. ask him to stop are met with more violence ime, as they see it as you trying to control them and they can't have that.