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Valentines! What do you buy for a man?

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newstartamiready Sat 28-Jan-17 12:03:06

So it's my first Valentine's Day with my bf but our 1 year anniversary is around the same time! What I want to know is what others buy for valentines? Also do I then buy a separate gift for the anniversary?

Or instead of spending lots of money on stuff (he's not very materialistic, I am more than him) has anyone got any idea for something lovely and thoughtful? For xmas I made him a card from moonpig which he loved but I can't do that again can I?

Pocketsaviour Sat 28-Jan-17 12:07:03

I don't do anything more than a card, it's a load of commercialized rubbish. I always say "don't get me anything, and this is not a passive aggressive trick statement". In the past I've made a really nice dinner at home, as going out on the day just results in over priced conveyer belt meals.

Unless you can afford to take him to a Michelin star restaurant. If you can, do that grin

Justmuddlingalong Sat 28-Jan-17 12:10:52

I have never in all my days celebrated the anniversary of our getting together. Am I in a minority here?

mrsenasharples Sat 28-Jan-17 12:12:03

Nothing. Over commercialised and crap. Don't set the precedent and celebrate your anniversary nstead.

AuntieStella Sat 28-Jan-17 12:12:16

Card only for St Valentines (though once I got him a book as there was a particularly apposite new release).

He sends flowers.

I didn't do anything about anniversaries until we had wedding ones. And it would often be a book for those too.

mrsenasharples Sat 28-Jan-17 12:13:02

No, must admit, we haven't celebrated the anniversary of getting together. Although we did pretty much get married two years later. Great timing!

TheNaze73 Sat 28-Jan-17 12:13:16

I'm male & would never expect a gift. It's a load of bollocks

ovenchips Sat 28-Jan-17 12:15:41

Agree with PocketSaviour.

I wouldn't buy him anything (unless there's something he particularly wanted).

A home cooked meal/ special evening in could be nice.

But deffo not a specific Valentine gift. Wouldn't waste my

newstartamiready Sat 28-Jan-17 12:16:35

Ha ha so everyone hates Valentine's Day?

I wouldn't want to go out for valentines as it's cringey! But I still think it's nice to give him something or even do something nice for him!

newstartamiready Sat 28-Jan-17 12:17:35

Thenaze - ha ha so you wouldn't expect a gift but would you get one for you partner?

Mol1628 Sat 28-Jan-17 12:22:41

We don't do valentines either. Not even cards. Probably the most unromantic time of year to go out for a meal as well, when everyone else is doing the same.

Babyg1995 Sat 28-Jan-17 12:26:43

I cook a nice meal at home and have a few drink's we always get gifts for each other I usually get him a card aftershave and some little things.

Emboo19 Sat 28-Jan-17 12:31:35

Me and my bf don't do cards for any occasion! I don't see the point of a card if you see the person. Valentines we usually mark the day somehow and he usually gets me something varies as to what, he's a very good gift buyer though. I don't buy for him. March 14th is for the guys, no?
Never celebrated our anniversary, we aren't married!

TheNaze73 Sat 28-Jan-17 12:36:54

OP, I would as its important to her. Taking her to Paris for the weekend. She respects my decision that it's not for me, so a trip to Versailles (my thing) & dinner in Le Cinq & a drink up the Eiffel Tower after (her thing) seemed like a good compromise

newstartamiready Sat 28-Jan-17 12:54:19

Thenaze - that sounds much better than a gift grin

AnitaPallenbergsKnees Sat 28-Jan-17 12:57:48

When we were first together it used to be card and meal out but as soon as we lived together /got married we have a nice meal at home and an early night.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners Sat 28-Jan-17 12:57:49

We don't do Valentine's Day cards and gifts, and we don't celebrate the day we got together usually (I cooked a nice meal.last year because I remembered, which we don't always do). But we have been together for 18 years and celebrate our wedding anniversary now instead. We didn't celebrate a year of getting together only because I was in hospital having DS, and the following year we were married.

newstartamiready Sat 28-Jan-17 13:07:09

Andnone- grin wow you two didn't mess around did you?

BillDoor Sat 28-Jan-17 13:09:21

We don't do valentines for much the same reason as everyone else.
Plus my birthday is within days of valentines and I like the focus to be on me! grin
(It's something I'm quite funny about. I do so much for my family, I expect to be treated like a princess for just one day a year. Woe betide DP if he doesn't...)

AndNoneForGretchenWieners Sat 28-Jan-17 13:15:28

newstart well the pregnancy was unplanned but we knew pretty soon that we wanted to get married.

Aebj Sat 28-Jan-17 13:25:46

Happens to be our wedding anniversary. We had planned a Novemeber wedding but found out I would of been heavily pregnant with ds1. So moved everything right and the first date we were we all free was 14 feb .
As dh is navy we haven't spent many anniversarys together. So I'll probably send dh a card this year and he will send me one

scardeyy Sat 28-Jan-17 13:30:08

I just get my husband heart shaped choc or something.

Also we celebrate our getting together anniversary, it will always be our main anniversary before our wedding anniversary - I suppose it depends how long you were together before married, if not long then it prob wouldn't have had the time to become a special day.

SparkleShinyGlitter Sat 28-Jan-17 13:33:12

Me and dh have been together 19 years and always do a little something for valentines

Dh always sends a soppy message during the day which is unlike him as he's not the heart on sleeve kind
Meal at home
Bottle of champnage
Fancy box of chocolates and a film

Sugarpiehoneyeye Sat 28-Jan-17 13:43:48

Just make him a nice, home cooked meal.
Failing that, a chocolate monster from Thorntons !

LizzieMacQueen Sat 28-Jan-17 13:47:19

To me Valentine's Day is more for those who secretly admire someone.

You know, send a card with love from ? Xxxx

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