I met someone online last year. He seemed OK to start with but I ended it after 3 weeks because it became apparent to me that he hadn't really moved on from not one, but two of his previous relationships. He would mention one ex constantly i.e. 'oh Ex used to take fabulous pictures, I'll need to show you the photos she took on our holiday to blah blah 5 years ago' (like why would I want to see his ex girlfriends holiday snaps). He also had a lot of issues regarding his most recent ex who he only split up with in August. They have a young son together. He constantly complained about her behaviours, saying that she emotionally and physically bullied him, that she bullied him into having the baby. Things started to come out like how he had broken her finger during an argument (he said it was self defence). HE also said that she used to say what a horrible person he was and he would appease her by agreeing with her. The last week we were 'together' and which was the nail in the coffin for me, he said that he had made his mum cry by snapping at her at a family Christmas event, had had multiple arguments with his ex (the mother of his child) and fell out with all of his colleagues at work (to which I received a massive essay via Whatsapp). I got to the conclusion that this was someone who had too many issues for me and I found myself not really having any respect for him. A common denominator was coming through. I have a lot of big drama and shit going on in my life at the moment (I've got another thread about it) so don't need this sort of bollocks on top of that. I told him that I felt it wasn't going to work out between us. This was after 3 weeks of meeting. He has since then sent me multiple messages, saying how distraught and confused he is by my decision. He implies that it is down to my own drama in my life, and says stuff like he wanted to be a tree which I could rely on in the stormy weather (or some such bollocks). Anyway I really wanted to tell him he is not a fucking tree, a tree has roots deep in the earth which makes it strong, he is more like a bit of tumbleweed blowing around.
Anyway, he has latched onto the fact that he lent me a pair of socks. He wants them back. He keeps asking for them, I actually don't know what he is talking about, I don't know if I have them. But this is a bit weird isn't it. I wouldn't expect contact still , it is a month now that I ended it and we only knew each other for 3 weeks!
Would I be unreasonable to send him a message telling him what I think plus that I don't know where his socks are?
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OLD ex of 3 weeks chasing me to return his socks
bluestardressinggown · 28/01/2017 10:19
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I really want you tell him he's a tumbleweed 
don't though!
He's just using it as an excuse to see you so he can blag your head. Tell him to fuck off and block his number.
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