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Friendship with previous partner and moving on

(14 Posts)
IamMee Sat 28-Jan-17 07:34:11

Had a brief romance with (lets call him David), he called it off, wasn't ready for relationship. We have become really good friends, spending time together each weekend, mostly with kids. We now know each other far better than when we were seeing each other, he treats me better now than then. Problem is I still think I like him, but perhaps it's because I haven't met someone else yet. To put into perspective we dated for about 2.5 months, finished about 6 months ago. Chatted to someone online and we are going for a walk today, seeing friend tomorrow, why do I feel guilty? Should I mention something to David? Feel I should but don't know why or how, what would you do? We live in a close bit community so David will hear sooner or later, feel it's better coming from me, but just don't know.

Shayelle Sat 28-Jan-17 07:35:25

Dont feel guilty. You want different things. Dont say anything! Meet this guy and go for a walk. You dont owe david a thing!!!

IamMee Sat 28-Jan-17 07:43:00

Thank you! You are right about wanting different things, helps me feel less guilty being reminded of that!

Shayelle Sat 28-Jan-17 07:49:21

Also, he wasnt ever really a partner was he. He ended a brief fling with you but wanted to keep you as a friend. So you were ok as a friend, but not good enough to actually be with? Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it. You deserve better!!

Hassled Sat 28-Jan-17 07:50:38

If you think you still like him you should probably have a bit of a break from the David-friendship thing. Having lovely weekends with him is not ever going to help you move on. Enjoy your new date and don't feel guilty for a minute.

IamMee Sat 28-Jan-17 07:50:56

Thanks you! Yep you are right again! No he wasn't... as soon as I posted I realised that was the wrong word to use!

Shayelle Sat 28-Jan-17 07:52:58

Let us know how the walk goes smile

Surreyblah Sat 28-Jan-17 07:53:48

I would cut back dramatically on time with him, for your and DCs' sake.

Surreyblah Sat 28-Jan-17 07:54:22

You don't need ex bfs who dumped you as "friends".

cosytoaster Sat 28-Jan-17 08:02:03

He didn't want a relationship with you so he can hardly say anything about you dating someone else. Hope the walk goes well....come back and update us grin

IamMee Sat 28-Jan-17 08:08:40

Thanks I will, and yes must try and reduce time spent with David, not easy though as the kids are really good friends

Surreyblah Sat 28-Jan-17 08:11:07

Even more reason to cut back IMO. Did the Dc even know each other before?

IamMee Sat 28-Jan-17 08:25:37

Yep, one of Davids siblings is a god parent to one of my Dc's.... What a tangled web we weave!!

IamMee Sat 28-Jan-17 12:18:09

Ah it didn't happen, possibly later in the week, thanks thoughbfor thenadcixe and support

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