Can someone hold my hand
Ive left my dp and moved in with a relative until I have sorted out somewhere more permanent to go. Our relationship was struggling for quite a while but it reached fever pitch las week. He is unable to save anything - he will pay what he absolutely has to ie rent but anything else that can be put off will be. Food, heating, savings for rainy day doesn happen.
His ds had a landmark birthday last week and dp hadnt a penny saved for it - however he is drinking either out in a bar or at home 4-5 nights per week. He also buys himself gadgets clothes etc on a regular basis. Im suffering quite severe depression at the minute and this worry is making it worse.
Last week he stayed out all nite and had to cancel plans the next day with me and my children as he was too hungover.
When i object he tells me im boring, demanding, thst my depression gives me mood swings and he needs an outlet away from me - we do have awful fights and are horrible to each other.
I just had enough and said i was going
He verbally abused me- told me i was selfish etc.
I just want the strength to stay away -
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Ive left and im very anxious
cocoface · 28/01/2017 06:25
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Thanks so much. Its him making me doubt myself which is the worst. He tells me I should live on my own thst im mad - etc
Dont get me wrong I answer him and tell him what I think if him and his short fallings and its not pleasant - but its increasingly sapping my confidence.
Honestly though its his selfishness towards his own dc that made me finally see. His ds car broke down - this is a big problem as he uses it to get to uni and work - his ex and dc live in a very rural area with practically no public transport. His dc was really upset as he was struggling to find money to pay for repairs.
I took £100 from my savings and gave it to his ds saying it was from me and dp - when ds contacted his dad to thank him dp told him that it was actually me only who gave the money as he was broke. He did this from a bar where he had been drinking for 7 hours after a funeral he had just attended! [Sad] 
How much does he owe you? Really i think if you want shot of him once and for all you have to cut yur loss and forget the money. As its only going to be somethig that he uses as an excuse to string you along. You wont see the money. See it as a cost of becoming free. Wouldnt it be nice to feel at peace and free? That is how you WILL feel. You have to grit your teeth and find your inner strength right now tho. 
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