I am a mother of two( 4 month old and almost two year old) and currently in the process of moving. I am a SAHM. I have found recently I can't bear any physical contact from my husband, prior to this we used to be very sexually active with one another. Even when he tries to kiss me I don't feel anything. I just don't feel the same towards him. I don't feel like he's attracted to me anymore. I have lost my self confidence through pregnancy and I feel like my husband has kind of got too comfortable in our marriage. He's not the type to get me flowers or even buy Gifts for my birthday or surprise me.
Parenthood may play a part in all of this but I just don't feel the same way I used to about him. I feel like we do the same thing all the time everyday feels the same and sometimes I don't feel this marriage is keeping me happy. I feel like all I do is do housework and look after the kids and I have no other purpose in life. I love my children but motherhood can be so hard .i feel so low all the time and I am trying to keep it together but I feel like I'm breaking down. I don't know if I make any sense but I just needed to write this all down.
My OH is a kind man and he helps with the kids but he isn't very romantic or adventurous. Even when we do get an evening to ourselves at home we spend it watching things he like or doing something he likes. I barely get time to myself because my kids are super dependent on me. I know this is normal to a certain extent but I just feel like the spark has disappeared and my sex drive is just non existent. I hate feeling this way and I want to change my situation with my husband but I don't know what to do. We argue a lot and my moods are so unpredictable sometimes I'm able to conceal how unhappy I am other times I cannot. I hate arguing and I like to avoid doing it in front of the kids as I don't want them to witness this kind of negativity.
When I do try and explain all this to him he gets defensive and says ,"you have everything what more do you want." I have tried to express myself but he can't seem to understand what my problem is. I love him but I'm not in love with him I don't know if this makes sense but I just feel so down.
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Love him but not in love with him
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yyozalia · 26/01/2017 23:31
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