I have what I understand is a bad case of limerence (to be kind) or obsession (if less kind). Summary is I have felt that I am overwhelmingly in love with a man for many years, I won't say how many, but lets say 5+ years.
I think it started as a result of some trauma bonding. We were dating and he was really vile and orally abusive to me totally out of the blue and very shocking. After that I think I became obsessed with over coming this nasty and cruel rejection and wanting to prove to him I was worthy of his loved (crazy I know). He remained v. on/off using me for sex etc taking advantage of my love/limerence/how much I liked him.
I have tried everything to get over this - no contact, lots of contact, therapy of various kinds; hypnosis; dating others like a tabloid wannabe;, focusing on my own life, and everything in between.
I still feel this all embracing passion for a man I know to be a nasty piece of work.
He triggers something very deep (and unhealthy) in me and I feel he is my soul mate - especially (But not just) my sexual soul mate. This is entirely one sided.
Do I need to resign myself to the fact that it's how I feel and it won't go away ever?
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Can this kind of "love" (limerence really I get it's not proper love) last forever? Am I doomed?
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Will I ever get over this or will it last for ever until the day I die?
Britannialia · 26/01/2017 00:51
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