How did you grieve? And how do you cope with growing older and remembering things and not being able to ask her anything?
I'm in my 30's now and lost my mum aged 17. She was a good mother and everyone loved her and I know she loved me dearly, but as I'm getting older with my own children I'm seeing her differently. She favoured my siblings over me and would tell my sister I was jealous of her. Her boys were her stars. She was overprotective of me and never let me have friends, talk in front of people or go out anywhere alone. It's affected me for life where I was shy and I don't have any friends and don't know how to have friends. I'm NC with my siblings because they've all at one time or another used me for their benefit financially or used my help and have never helped me when I've needed it.
I am getting more and more frustrated that I can't ask her why? I wish I could scream at her and tell her how well her other kids are doing but look what she's done to me. But I can't. I don't even though if this my teenage perception of her that has remained and if she were alive today we would've got on brilliantly as I'm older and more mature. Everyone who knew her who is older than me, tells me she was a wonderful woman who left a big gap in their lives upon dying.
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Poiple · 25/01/2017 14:22
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