So I ended it 3 weeks ago with my partner of nearly ten years married half that and we have a 3 year old son. I have struggled with whether our relationship was what I wanted from around 18 months in, the thing is my husband is handsome, kind, intelligent a good dad etc etc... but you know when you just don't have 'it'. He's not Much of a talker and thanks to this have spent a good chunk of our years together feeling lonely ( I have a great social circle but have always struggled enjoying time Alone with him because of this - holidays just he two of us always the very worst!)and I have always been very sexual but he isn't and I found over the years that he preferred porn to me I think this relates back to his lack of communication- he doesn't really engage with people - myself included. So after years of back and forth on the subject I did it and initially felt relief but now that I am having to split my son 50/50 I feel dreadful like my heart is ripped out not having him all the time and that I have done this to myself for essentially selfish reasons of wanting a partner I can have fun with, that wants to talk to me and have sex. Has anyone had a similar position? I am struggling to find people that have walked away from something that wasnt 'awful' - just not enough and whilst I feel in my gut I did the right thing I am now so incredibly guilty that I have halved my time with my son for what seem like superficial reasons. Please be kind or at least constructive as bit of a mess at the moment x
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Justdreadful · 24/01/2017 19:47
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