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Babacat12 Tue 24-Jan-17 14:08:05

Hi all,

I really need an outsiders opinion.

I checked my husband of three years emails and saw some sent from before we met.

The person he sent them to when I googled was into meeting up with couples/ group sex and trans stuff.

My husband emailed this person pics (before I knew him).

I confronted him about it months ago and he went mad (understandably) for going through his stuff and denied any knowledge. I tried to put it to back if my mind for months and couldn't do I spoke to him about it last night.

He said when he was younger he just sent emails for kicks to some couples. They sent him pics etc but they never met up and he is not into any trans stuff. He has always been into pics rather than porn with me. B

My problem is I didn't expect this if him but it was in the year or two before I met him and nothing since

He is a fantastic husband and dad . I don't want to mess things up, but I am the sort of person who cannot let things go.

I just need to hear some outside perspective

Am I wrong here to feel annoyed?

In my gut I think I am and I have no right to be annoyed st something in his past?

Give me your best!!

Thank you xxx

SheldonsSpot Tue 24-Jan-17 14:15:46

Despite the fact he's a fantastic husband and dad, and you presumably had no reason to, you went through your DH's emails?

With the result being you're annoyed because he emailed someone a few pics before you ever met him?

Tell him I said the hills are that way -->

PollytheDolly Tue 24-Jan-17 14:19:54 need to let it go OP.

His past is his to share if he wants to, as is yours. Unless it's something horrendously serious of course, which this isn't.

Babacat12 Tue 24-Jan-17 14:22:50

Lol, thank You!

I am a nut job aren't I!

I had checked them as I found he had been liking pics of other girls of instagram!! Oh god! I do sound mad

Again I just didn't expect that! So I panicked and checked his phone _•• was clear, bar that in the past. And apart from the instagram likes I have never once doubted him or been suspicious.

justdontevenfuckingstart Tue 24-Jan-17 14:27:48

Yep you're a nut job op (lighthearted). I behaved in a totally different way before I met OH I would never do any of the things I did before now but my past would be shocking to him (and he was no angel either).

Stop looking for problems when there are none and enjoy your relationship. Everyone has a past but he is with you now x

Babacat12 Tue 24-Jan-17 17:20:56

Thank you!

It is so helpful to hear. X

HelenaGWells Tue 24-Jan-17 17:29:20

Try and think of it like this. Would you be happy if he started thinking like this about you over something you did before you met him?

Let it go op he hasn't done anything wrong but if you keep snooping and trying to make him feel terrible about this then YOU are going to damage your marriage.

Babacat12 Tue 24-Jan-17 18:30:41

You are right. Thank you.

I was just going mad playing it all over in my head making it more than what it was. It's just because it's not the man I know now
So I was panicking thinking do I know him, is this what he wants etc

But he's a very good man. He doesn't deserve this.

I just needed another few opinions to help me see sense x

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