Name changed as I'm worried this could be very identifying!
I need some advice on how to deal with my ex partner. We have been on and off since we were young with gaps in between.
He broke things off entirely four months ago and I've been struggling ever since. To avoid minimizing my part in the confusion, to begin with he had cut things off entirely and would only respond to messages about our DS, I pushed it when maybe I shouldn't have and he has since said that he sees me as a best friend.
The problem is that although he calls me a best friend, he doesn't really treat me like one. Sometimes he's overly affectionate and acts as though we're still together and we're still a family. He'll do things like invite me over to his when DS is there and want to cuddle and kiss me. Writing this down, I have no idea why I allow it, except that I still desperately want to be together.
Other times, he'll be cold and distant with me, particularly when his family who have never liked me have been involved. It doesn't excuse it (although I've been desperately trying to excuse it) but he's a very weak person who has a tendency to be led by whoever he's with.
He's made things difficult by outright saying in heated situations that he still loves me but has in fairness to him, made it very clear that it's over this time for good.
How do I find it in me to walk away, since I KNOW he never fully will?
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Stormyumbrella · 23/01/2017 20:20
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