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Unhappy and pregnant

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user1485030575 Sat 21-Jan-17 20:40:29

I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years. He has always been overly critical of me and likes to put me down in every aspect of my life. To be honest I cant remember a single day in our history where he hasn't said something cruel about me. This is my first pregnancy and although my baby wasn't planned I couldn't be happier and I already can't imagine a life without her. I love my partner but no longer feel that I can keep living like this. He calls me a spounger and tries to make me feel like I wouldn't cope without him. I work full time and contribute towards the house bills every month yet he refuses to put me on the mortgage and tells me that I contribute nothing and he puts a roof over my head. I left him about 5 years ago for this sort of thing and his constant nastiness and he begged me to come back, needless to say I did. Now that I'm pregnant I know I don't want to be with him, it's made me realise how wrong he is and I don't want my daughter to grow up thinking her dad is a role model. My problem is my earnings aren't high enough for me to have my own property and I have nowhere to go. I feel completely stuck here and hopeless. Has anyone been through this?

Secretlife0fbees Sat 21-Jan-17 22:21:53

You might be surprised, why don't you look into what benefits ur entitled to? Loads of people have babies who don't work or earn a lot, that is no reason to stay with someone so awful. Get out now before you have the baby!!! That's my advice..

jeaux90 Sun 22-Jan-17 09:42:29

Go now whilst you have a chance as it will be a lot harder to do that when the baby arrives.

Believe me, being a single mum is way easier than being in a relationship with someone who is abusive.

jeaux90 Sun 22-Jan-17 09:44:24

Also speak to gingerbread they are a single parent organisation and have lots of practical advise. Look into tax credits and remember you will get child maintenance from your partner too. Do your maths based on all those factors. Xx

category12 Sun 22-Jan-17 10:08:29

Oh please do leave him. You're earning, so you could find a nice little place to rent. Do you have supportive family around?

Who knows what the future brings in terms of opportunities, but you will be more confident to take them without him shooting you down all the time.

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