He never seems enthusiastic unless I'm on top or its doggy, if I initiate he's not interested.
He says its because he doesn't know what I like which really gets me as I've told him countless times what I like and don't like.
I pretty much were the trousers in the relationship not through choice though I would love him to make a decision but he changes his mind more than he has hot dinners about anything and everything so I end up having to make the decision alone.
He wants me to tell him what to do exactly when were having sex which turns me off so much as it feels like I have to wet nurse him. i don't mind doing it to some degree but not to the extent he wants me to.
I tell him whenever the converstaion goes that way, what turns me on and its not rocket science you know; kissing me on the neck - that type of stuff yet he barely does and when he does do it he's like a wood pecker and I just want to scream for god sake just bloody kiss it!!!!!!
This morning; this is mortifying - he initiated sex, I refused to go on top so we were in a bit of a funny position, I was into it kissing and recipricating his movements iykwim sorry then he stops and pulls away I asked if he was ok and he said yes so I said is that it (no one had orgasmed and its not the first time he's done this so I felt angry) and he didn't reply just looked at the ceiling so i got up and retreated to the bathroom for a shower and to hide.
I was too embarassed to ask there and then what on earth is going on...after the shower I asked and he said he didin't think I was into it (I do not know what more I could of of done apart from yeehaaing like a cowgirl).
I asked why didn't you ask me if i was enjoying it or suggest another position he said he didn't know and that he just didn't think I was into it.
He's just gone to work. I don't know what to do as I've had enough.....I don't want to sleep with him again. We do have a few issues at the moment but this happens even when things are fine realtionship wise.
Before he went to work I asked him to think if he just thought of me as a friend rather than a lover....I do wonder if he's having an affair or he wants me to do the breaking up type of thing.
Advice needed please, please be gentle I'm so embarassed!!!! its not something I can talk to my RL friends about.
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Sex life with dh in a bit of a mess...having a rant......
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Upsadaisy · 24/02/2007 11:10
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