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Couple swapping

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user1484939839 Fri 20-Jan-17 19:23:41


New name, you know....

I am on here a lot but not this topic.


Advice please....

Happily married - typical 2 kids mid 30s etc etc

Friends have suggested quite openly that we swap. We are due to stay at thiers tomorrow night, they live about 100 miles away.

We have a relaxed, chatty, friendly relationship with them. Been on holiday as couples. Not that long standing. No deep and meaningful discussions.

The haven't swapped before and neither have we. My husband and I had vaguely thought about it before kids with another couple but it never happened. This couple just sort of suggested we all try the last time we met up which was for dinner rather than staying over. Holiday means that boobs, bums, wobbly bits, and so on have already been exposed.

I have to admit, I fancy the idea, hubby too, and I texted just now to say ummmmm ok.


Bad idea?


AnyFucker Fri 20-Jan-17 19:26:00

Daily Mail here we come...

donajimena Fri 20-Jan-17 19:27:12

Thoughts? You first OP...
D- could do better

MakeItRain Fri 20-Jan-17 19:28:09

Yes, cut out the middle man and email all responses straight to the Daily Mail Online.

expatinscotland Fri 20-Jan-17 19:29:53


TiggyD Fri 20-Jan-17 19:30:39

Why not play something like The Game Of life?

TiggyD Fri 20-Jan-17 19:30:58

Or Hungry Hippos?

IateallthePies654 Fri 20-Jan-17 19:33:15


user1484939839 Fri 20-Jan-17 19:33:19

Not my first post, but first using this username.

Why Daily Fail?
Surely a silly (early-) middle aged couple trying swapping is hardly news?

gamerchick Fri 20-Jan-17 19:36:25

As long as you're sure who goes where. The men may want to get together while the wife takes you off to a spot wink

inlectorecumbit Fri 20-Jan-17 19:36:54

oh dear..........

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom Fri 20-Jan-17 19:39:18

There's a sex topic, if you're a genuine long term user you shouldn't have issue posting there... hmm

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom Fri 20-Jan-17 19:41:44

Also got to say all these 'user12345777554237' names are getting right on my tits along with the NC as this is soooooo embarrassing, on an anonymous Internet site-what the fucking ever...

rosabug Fri 20-Jan-17 19:48:58

well - i wouldn't be so dismissive as some of the posters here. Hiding primness behind jokes. It depends how strong you are as a couple and if you are okay with the friendship going tits up or being embarrassing. Personally having tried the Open thing I would give it a miss and keep it a fantasy.

IceCat Fri 20-Jan-17 19:58:17

not worried you will like the other guy better hubby?

Celaena Fri 20-Jan-17 20:00:23

what does SH mean??

user1484939839 Fri 20-Jan-17 20:00:44

No, not really. I already know him and love my hubby.

user1484939839 Fri 20-Jan-17 20:02:18

My IRL initials.

PollytheDolly Fri 20-Jan-17 20:33:10



Ilovecaindingle Fri 20-Jan-17 20:33:17

If you know a good solicitor then crack right on. .

FourToTheFloor Fri 20-Jan-17 20:34:02

"Hubby" gives you away OP, you're not on here a lot are you hmm

Fwiw if you're fine with your dh cheating and him you then I'd prefer a ons or someone that wasn't allegedly a friend.

GelfBride Fri 20-Jan-17 20:35:12

All this because there is a national courgette shortage grin

Whatabloodyidiot1 Fri 20-Jan-17 20:36:57

How do you know that every single time you have sex after tomorrow night your husband isn't imagining you're the other woman?
How are you going to feel watching your husband having sex with someone else? The look of ecstasy on his face as he orgasms with another woman, have you really thought about this? Not just the physical stuff but the psychological impact that swapping will have on you?
What if he wants to do it again but you don't? What if the other man is crap in bed?
Swapping anonymously is one thing but with friends, people you know and will see again? No chance. It will change your relationship with the other woman too, I couldn't stay friends with someone who had fucked my husband and vice versa.....

Sassypants82 Fri 20-Jan-17 20:41:34

OMG, I've been wondering why my local Tesco hasn't had courgettes for the past two weeks.. So there's really a national shortage?!

HarryPottersMagicWand Fri 20-Jan-17 20:44:08

How is it a new name when you have one of those annoying user5000000 names that you get when you first register and then don't namechange?

Hubby and signing off with your actual initials? I thought you said you had been on MN before.

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