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jellyontheplate89 Fri 20-Jan-17 18:48:00

I've been single 5 years & have two DC. An ex off mine that I saw on and off for 2-3 years (not dc father) has been in contact after nearly 10 years off no contact. We broke up because I moved away after loosing my job and that was it. He got in contact via Facebook asking how I was & where am I living now etc. He went on to tell me he is single & has no family. We chatted for ages via Facebook and then texts and he went on to tell me he has cancer & is currently having treatment. To say I was shocked was an understatement But automatically burst in to tears. He went on to tell me he has been battling this alone and although he has friends they are not very supportive. His words were " you know how guys are we don't like to talk" since hearing this I can't stop thinking about him. But I don't know weather it's because I feel for him going through such a horrible time or because I generally still hold a torch for him. I want to suggest I visit him at his home (10 miles away) and catch up but I'm an over thinker and worry he will think it's out of pitty. I'm just so confused on my feelings. I generally feel so sad and keep reminiscing about all the times we had. Any advice would be appreciated.

Quarksoundslikequack Fri 20-Jan-17 18:57:18

Given that you had been out of contact for 10 years, I'm going to go feel sorry for him going through this alone.

If an ex messaged me, given that amount of time passed I'd probably support them but not because I hold a torch for him.

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