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It has to be over ... Right ??

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cattychatty Fri 20-Jan-17 00:12:33

I'm been involved with a man for about a year I say involved because i can't think of another word for it.
He lives about 2 hours from me near to my cousin who I visit regularly that's how I met him. We have only ever met in the pub except one weekend which we spent together last summer.
He is scared of a relationship andndinds it really hard to open up although we do talk more now. He's got a very fucked up family and is basically the glue that holds things together when it's all crashing down.
He drinks a lot as in all weekend. I do go out but not every weekend like he does.
I know he's wrong for me he can't be involved in my children's life I wouldn't expose them to his drinking and if he isn't good for them he isn't good for me. He promises me nothing but I still want him. I know it's fucked up. If he wanted me he'd be there for me and he has never once prioritised me over anything. I need to tell him it's over but I'm scared that the breakthrough is almost here and he'll want me as much as I want him.

MommaGee Fri 20-Jan-17 00:24:51

You know the answer.

If the breakthrough it there, when you tell him he'll fight for you. If not, if he let's you go, it leaves you open to finding a genuine connection. If he fights for you, make aire something changes or else walk anyway xx

tipsytrifle Fri 20-Jan-17 00:35:25

I'm sorry but this does indeed sound like a non-starter though your desire for him is currently strong. Don't set yourself up for an impossible situation based on chemical attraction and blind hope. Listen to your rational mind on this one chocolate

LellyMcKelly Sat 21-Jan-17 08:33:05

Yeah, ditch him. The litmus test is whether he's good enough for your children, and he's not. Move on.

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