Need some perspective here that I'm doing the right thing. Background is together 16 years, married 8, two DC. We separated just before new years. I'd say it came as a bit of a shock but things have been bad for a while.
Dh can be very grumpy, moody and has a bad temper. He is a very negative person and always moans about how tired he is, how hard he works. He gets cross about really stupid things. I felt like I've been walking on egg shells for a long time. So as a result I have detached a bit. I just get on with things, try and avoid confrontation and sort the kids out myself as best I can.
My main issue is that even if he's been cross/moody all day he might still initiate sex that night. And obviously I'm not keen because of how he's been acting. But I always oblige. We would have sex once a week, and maybe a bj during the week as well. Sorry for tmi. But I've no sex drive because I feel he treats me like shit.
So anyway that's a big problem. He says I'm not interested, I'm withdrawing because of how I feel and he's hurt because I'm not interested.
So skip to today, almost 3 weeks since we decide to split. I knew he was coming round to get stuff before he went to work, I stayed out after the school run so he would be gone before I got home. He text to see where I was and when I got home he was still there. He was just out of the shower and he asked me to give him a BJ. I'm am so upset and I think it's just reinforced that that's all I'm fucking good for. He doesn't give a shit about me as long as he's getting what he needs.
I didn't do it, I got straight in the car and drove off.
That's a shit thing to do isn't it?
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Feel like I'm only good for sex
Pieceofmeat · 19/01/2017 20:53
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