I have made an absolutely massive mess of my life and have no idea how to begin sorting it out.
DH and I have been together 15 years. 3dc. He is a sahd. I think he's possibly depressed (although denies this strongly). We have had no sex life really since DS born 3 years ago. He has no real interest in doing anything as a family, nor in socialising. Makes no effort with the few friends he had (now lost them) and if I suggest socialising with my friends he will go along with it begrudgingly. He is however an excellent father in many ways. Whenever I talk to him about making changes he says he is happy.
A few months ago a man from work started paying me lots of attention. I rebuffed him several times but he was actually really relentless. Told me had fallen in love with me. Stupidly started intense, passionate affair. OM then ended things abruptly. I was devastated. My own fault, and deserved I know.
Then a few weeks later he asked me to his house. I went because I missed him massively. He felt like the only bit of happiness in my life. Started a sort of fuck buddies relationship. Nowhere near as intense as before and I'm really struggling with that. I miss him. I know that's ridiculous. And I should end things with him fast and probably end my marriage too but it all just feels impossible. I keep going round in circles as to why he would pursue me so aggressively and then just end it? How can he be satisfied with this whole fuck buddies thing? And then I don't know what to do about DH. I am all he has in his life. How could I leave him? Plus he's a sahd - would he get custody of the kids if I did?
I feel my mental health is suffering. I spend lots of time in tears. It's just a huge huge mess. And I wish I could rewind the clock and fix things. But I can't I'm stuck in it all and just feel so trapped.
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Grublets · 18/01/2017 20:24
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