I have been wondering about this the other thread prompted me to ask for advice.
History: split from DC father in 10 years ago. He's had 2 GF's, has a child now with the last GF who he lives with. I like her she's lovely. I buy child presents and always make a fuss when I do DC drop off pick up etc. He did not tell me about any of these GF or the baby I found out via the DC who are now teens.
I have had about 2 partners in this time, 2 of who have met kids. Didn't work out (I made bad partner choices and have learnt my lesson!) and ex wasn't very nice to me during these relationships or after.
Ex and I had a bad split but he's mellowed now and we are very civil. Not friends but don't argue - because I don't rock the boat. I've been single for about 7 or so years I think.
I have a BF now and we are getting to meeting kids stage. Ex doesn't know. DC don't want me to tell him but this now feels like lying by omission although ex hates having these conversations with me and to my face will just say 'ok whatever' the DC worry he will quiz them and ask a ton of questions and make them feel awkward.
So DC are happy for me, want to meet BF, he's a nice guy but don't want me to tell ex although he is bound to find out. I want to do what DC are comfy with (and I am sure me being single forever would suit the lot of them ) but I also have to do the right thing with ex.
Do I just tell him? Face to face or via text? Let him find out via DC?
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Telling ex you have met someone new
BumDNC · 17/01/2017 18:38
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