A bit deep I know but...
How do you know that you're 'in love' with your DP/DH/DW?
I'm due to get married towards the end of the year and having a bit of a wobble but I'm not sure that it's a 'real' wobble or whether I'm just confused by the media's portrayal of 'love'?
I'm a very logical person, not hugely emotional, I hardly ever cry for example so that might be a big part of this(?).
Basically:
- I deeply care for DP....if he is hurt/upset it makes me feel sad (and I generally don't have a lot of empathy so that's a big deal to me)
- My life would be much worse without him in lots of ways: I'd miss him, I'd be lonely and I'd be scared that I wouldn't find someone who is as lovely as he is
- I don't feel like I 'couldn't live without him' though; I was single for six years before him so know that if for any reason things were to end I'd be okay in the end
- He has lots of lovely qualities
- That being said I'm very aware of his imperfections....he can drone on about certain topics, he's quite naive/sheltered compared to me and a bit of a nerd
- However I'm also very aware that I am just as imperfect in different ways
He is completely different to the guys I dated before him (they were usually charming, successful and total arseholes). Sometimes I miss the excitement/charm/spark of the guys I used to date but mainly I know that my DP is good for me and while I don't feel excited, I do feel safe and content.
Depending on my mood I both love the thought of being with him forever and it also terrifies me. The terrifying part being that it means my life is more 'set' and therefore less 'exciting'. However presumably this is what maturing is about, becoming a stable family unit ready for children?
Is this love?
Am I missing something that people in songs talk about or is that just a total fantasy?
Is this similar or different to how you feel about your partner?