Can I ask about the 3 by 3 issue? There's another thread but I don't want to highjack. Does anyone have 3 children by 3 fathers? Do you get a lot of judgement for it?
I have 2 children, first a surprise when I was 21, father turned out to not be a nice person, did it alone. Then married and had number 2, 6 years later, now almost 6 yrs old. Now divorced have been with partner who Ive known since I was 18 for 2 years and we are starting ttc. Kids are very happy, good relationships with their dads, no dramas, partner has no other children and adores mine. Can't seem to get the fuck over myself about it and worry too much about being judged.
I think anyone who judges you for it, is a twat and you wouldn't want to know them anyway. I can't see what the hell it has to do with anybody else and if they do judge, it says more about them than you and your lovely, happy family.
I think it's just one of those things that some people will judge, no matter the reasons/causes behind it. My first husband used to judge single Mum's on the basis that they chose to be single and yet have children. I remember challenging him - what if they left an abusive partner, what if she were a widow? You just don't know people's stories. Hold your head high and be proud that you got through everything, came out the other side and are now in a happy place and ttc. For what it's worth, I am being judged for wanting to be a single Mum of 4 and my children all have the same Dad. People will always find something/someone to judge.
My mum has 4 by 3, I've never even thought anything of it and never class my sisters as 'half' sisters. She, on the other hand, has quite a chip on her shoulder about it and we were never allowed to tell anyone we had different dads (we all have the same surname - she kept her married name when divorced from my father as wanted the same name as us, and gave it to subsequent children)
I think people's attitudes now have changed. I can remember being the only child of divorced parents when I was growing up in the 80's whereas now the parents in my children's school are a mixture of marrieds, singles and people on 2nd and 3rd marriages.
I have 2 dc with exh and one on the way with new partner and the fact they'll have different fathers doesn't change anything
I have 2 kids to my husband and my life is about as traditional as it can be- and I have to say I care not one jot about things like this. If you are a nice person and kind to your children, it honestly wouldn't cross my mind to start thinking about stuff like this. Don't over think it. Most people haven't the time to judge others... and if the do, who cares. Enjoy your lovely family.