So my gorgeous baby boy is 3 months old, we're ticking along nicely and I'm starting to make plans for the future and getting more positive each day, which is great as I never thought I'd end up feeling the slightest bit okay ever again. However, I still have the odd dark day; today for example, I happened to glimpse a picture of my ex on a mutual acquaintance's Facebook (someone I deleted straight away thereafter) which was taken at a wedding of someone I used to be friends with before the split and they automatically sided with him, and he was all dressed up (never even owned a suit when we were together) and sat with whatsherface and two people who, again, I used to be friends with, chatting away like he's not some spineless asshole who abandoned me when I was pregnant and has never seen his son. Don't get me wrong, most days it really doesn't get to me anymore as I can't find too much decent feeling toward a person who can do that, but naturally little things like that can piss me off when I let myself think about it, which is rarely these days but I am only human.
The point of my post is that although I'm nowhere near ready for such a thing, I'd like to hear any happy stories of people with young children meeting someone and it all working out nicely, because while I know deep down it's very likely to happen, I'm still quite unable to truly convince myself that it will. Right now I'm happy enough on my own and want to be truly settled before anything happening, but some nice stories in the meantime would be helpful so if there any, please tell! 
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loulou1626 · 13/01/2017 13:58
stealmyhappiness thank you for your reply, I am doing okay thank you
Aw it sounds like it all worked out wonderfully for you! I guess when you know, you know It also sounds like your friend is on a positive road too, hopefully it works out for them too.
Yeah I've been thinking along those lines too, the thing is that because my son's father isn't around at all, I'm quite nervous about meeting someone because he would have to want both of us, want the faniky life, you know? I mean obviously I'm not looking for a replacement dad but you know what I mean, I need someone who wants to look after us, who will love both of us and want to do anything for us, not the other way round where I end up with an overgrown man child...basically I need a good man!! 
Just have to keep the faith I guess!
stealmyhappiness I know what you mean, in a lot of ways I'm glad it's just me because it means I can raise my son in the best way possible without having to worry about his heart getting broken by someone who doesn't want him and, as you say, we can move on with our lives.
InfoFreako thank you for your reply Oh me too, and they are, I know I'll never feel like I did during those first few months, it can only get better. Oh I know, believe me I wouldn't rush in; a friend of mine expressed his interest a few months ago and while he's good with my son, there was just no way so it's not so much about rushing, my concern is actually being too afraid to take the leap should the right guy come along for being too worried about him not being the right guy! 
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