I just received an email from my brother.
My brother is 39!! He is a chief steward and lives with his boyfriend. He's been giving my parents a sum of money every month since he started working over 20 years ago. It's a customary thing to do in my family/culture. My mum wanted to return the money (as goodwill gesture) but knowing that he wouldn't accept it, she waited for him to be on one of his flights, went into his flat, looked for his bankbook and deposited the money into his bank!!! She must have been through all his drawers to look for his backbook. Bearing in mind that my brother lives with his boyfriend!! How embarrasing for him!! I mean, he is 39 ffs. We all have private things in our drawers!!!!!
And she does not think she has done anything wrong. She CAN NOT see that she has done anything wrong, invaded his privacy or shown lack of respect to him as an individual.
She continues to treat us like children!!
My brother is seething, but more than that, I'm sure he is embarrased that she has gone through his drawers in his own home. I agree with my brother on this one. Even though I know my mum meant well.
Any advice on punching 'one-liners' or reactions / actions that may perhaps help her to see his point of view?
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I can't believe what my mum did to my bro!! Advice please on comeback reactions to her..
greenday · 22/02/2007 18:54
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