Boyfriend won't move in with me

[Jenni2610]

Im 35 and my boyfriend 49 we have a baby girl together. The problem is he lives 200miles away. He has a daughter of 16 who lives with her mother in the same town. I have 3 children who live with me and it's impossible for me to leave them. At the moment he'll see her two days every fortnight. What do I do? I didn't enter this relationship thinking I'd be bringing up our daughter on my own 😪

[nuttyknitter]

Do you're asking him to choose your daughter over his first daughter?

[scurryfunge]

Did you ever discuss this before having a child together?

[RacoonBandit]

Did you not discuss this before having your DD? I assume 1 of youur 3 is his?

[TheNaze73]

You're being so unfair. Unless you'd agreed before the child was conceived, you're asking him to pick his favourite daughter

[Figure17a]

Was the baby planned. Wasn't this discussed during/before your pregnancy?

[Atenco]

Why would you have to leave your children to move closer to the father of the youngest?

[MyWineTime]

You won't move or leave your children. He won't leave his child.
Stalemate.
You must have known this before you had a child together.

[LIZS]

How long have you been together? How old are the dc, could you not each move closer, or you visit the second weekend.

[Cricrichan]

Does he work? If he works, would he be able to get a job closer? As his DD is 16, he'll probably be freer to move in 2 years. But you must have realised all this before you got pregnant?

[MichaelSheensNextDW]

Is he actually single?

[Figure17a]

That was my thought Michael. Although I can also understand why now wouldn't seem the right time to move away if elder DD is about to do GCSEs.

[Bibblewanda]

Why on earth didn't you discuss this before you had a baby??

[kel12345]

I agree, this should have been discussed before you got pregnant. You must have known all this, you can't really ask him to choose

[UnicornButtplug]

Can't you move, taking your children with you? Then your daughter can have a relationship with her older sister too xxx

[CafeAuLaitMerci]

PBP is very busy tonight me thinks.

[RacoonBandit]

@ Cafe

[Bibblewanda]

Oh ffs is it a pbp

[Figure17a]

Oh, what've I missed this time? What's a pbp?

[RacoonBandit]

Previously Banned Poster

[SparklyMagpie]

cafe

[Mermaidinthesea]

Move up there.

[10Betty10]

Just because I'm being nosey (this doesn't relate to what OPbhas said) how come you can tell it is a previously banned poster? And what do they get banned for? (As I said, am just bored and being nosey!)

[splendidglenda]

How can you be tell that it's a pbp