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Boyfriend won't move in with me

(24 Posts)
Jenni2610 Wed 11-Jan-17 18:35:30

Im 35 and my boyfriend 49 we have a baby girl together. The problem is he lives 200miles away. He has a daughter of 16 who lives with her mother in the same town. I have 3 children who live with me and it's impossible for me to leave them. At the moment he'll see her two days every fortnight. What do I do? I didn't enter this relationship thinking I'd be bringing up our daughter on my own 😪

nuttyknitter Wed 11-Jan-17 18:37:47

Do you're asking him to choose your daughter over his first daughter?

scurryfunge Wed 11-Jan-17 18:38:28

Did you ever discuss this before having a child together?

RacoonBandit Wed 11-Jan-17 18:39:17

Did you not discuss this before having your DD? I assume 1 of youur 3 is his?

TheNaze73 Wed 11-Jan-17 19:01:05

You're being so unfair. Unless you'd agreed before the child was conceived, you're asking him to pick his favourite daughter

Figure17a Wed 11-Jan-17 19:25:05

Was the baby planned. Wasn't this discussed during/before your pregnancy?

Atenco Wed 11-Jan-17 20:06:55

Why would you have to leave your children to move closer to the father of the youngest?

MyWineTime Wed 11-Jan-17 20:11:25

You won't move or leave your children. He won't leave his child.
Stalemate.
You must have known this before you had a child together.

LIZS Wed 11-Jan-17 20:11:48

How long have you been together? How old are the dc, could you not each move closer, or you visit the second weekend.

Cricrichan Wed 11-Jan-17 20:16:13

Does he work? If he works, would he be able to get a job closer? As his DD is 16, he'll probably be freer to move in 2 years. But you must have realised all this before you got pregnant?

MichaelSheensNextDW Wed 11-Jan-17 20:21:02

Is he actually single?

Figure17a Wed 11-Jan-17 20:25:22

That was my thought Michael. Although I can also understand why now wouldn't seem the right time to move away if elder DD is about to do GCSEs.

Bibblewanda Wed 11-Jan-17 20:26:32

Why on earth didn't you discuss this before you had a baby??

kel12345 Wed 11-Jan-17 20:30:53

I agree, this should have been discussed before you got pregnant. You must have known all this, you can't really ask him to choose

UnicornButtplug Wed 11-Jan-17 20:37:00

Can't you move, taking your children with you? Then your daughter can have a relationship with her older sister too xxx

CafeAuLaitMerci Wed 11-Jan-17 20:41:03

PBP is very busy tonight me thinks.

RacoonBandit Wed 11-Jan-17 20:43:36

grin @ Cafe

Bibblewanda Wed 11-Jan-17 20:50:02

Oh ffs is it a pbp

Figure17a Wed 11-Jan-17 20:59:21

Oh, what've I missed this time? What's a pbp?

RacoonBandit Wed 11-Jan-17 21:04:01

Previously Banned Poster

SparklyMagpie Wed 11-Jan-17 21:38:02

cafe grin

Mermaidinthesea Wed 11-Jan-17 21:39:19

Move up there.

10Betty10 Wed 11-Jan-17 21:42:05

Just because I'm being nosey (this doesn't relate to what OPbhas said) how come you can tell it is a previously banned poster? And what do they get banned for? (As I said, am just bored and being nosey!)

splendidglenda Thu 12-Jan-17 00:10:58

How can you be tell that it's a pbp

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