Hey everyone
Hope everyone is good. I'm new at this so please excuse any forum etiquette I don't adhere to. I just really need some mumsnet advice about my situation.
2nd attempt at writing so probably not very well done this time around.
We are both 29
I have been married for 5 years this Thursday. We have two DS. We have a few issues that I need some help either to understand so I can move on or see if I'm overreacting.
My husband and I met in a foolish whirlwind romance. I knew nothing about him but fell for him. There were red flags but I ignored them. We separated in April 2014 but have been working on fixing things sporadically. He was emotionally, verbally abusive and at the beginning of 2016 I went to a place of safety.
I messed up while I was there by staying in contact with some family who didn't get emotional or verbal abuse.
My conviction weakened and we got back together despite all the help and i got tonnes. Dealing with alot of guilt because of it.
My husband is different now but not so still causes me concern. We don't live together as he chose to find a flat outside as he said he can't stay in a messy house. He needs a clean environment.
This morning I found a couch surfing profile, where he has pics with other women. It wouldn't normally bother me but he has cheated before but a different story and I knew nothing about it (couch surfing thing). I am thinking to get a divorce but I'm a Christian and I have to make peace with it.
I am concerned for my children, regarding contact as i have concerns regarding boundaries with the children. It is all my own fault I know and I have called 101 for advice but should I err on the side of caution or am I over reacting?
There is more but not sure what to add. Please ask if I missed something. Thank you in advance and please be gentle. Kinda scared I'm gonna get ripped apart.
I'll try not to disappear x
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Shakemyfaith · 11/01/2017 01:59
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