In this case male (me) Catholic in a relationship with a Muslim woman. It is fairly early days and we talk A LOT about what is important to us. I know about the options of Muslim men and women being different re marriage, and what Islamic writings indicate. I'm also reading more about how these strictures are in fact much more 'moveable' in RL.
I'd be really interested in knowing of anyone's experiences and how things actually worked out for them. thanks in advance.
I am a Catholic (not a very good one) and DH is Jewish. My advice is to talk talk talk.
We spent a lot of our early days talking about kids, baptism, circumcision etc and worked out where we stood. We also met with a Priest and a Rabbi before getting married.
We also talked about what will happen when one of us dies and what kind of funeral / burial we will have. Not the obvious conversation to have but family pressures and expectations can be very strong and being clear what you want and where you stand is very helpful.
Thank you GG. We are doing that. Talk talk talk talk and then a bit more talk. And yet we both know there is still so much left to talk about. We are on the same word of the same line on the same page on the same book. We are clear, thank you.
It's obv everyone else around us - mainly her family who know nothing yet but will do soonish. Hence asking "what has actually happened in these cirs?"
In our case we had to show that despite the resistance we were not going to split up. It was very hard but we were clear that we could live our lives without the blessing of family or the religious community. As it turns out in the long run no family bridges are burned but I know it isn't always that way.
There's a strong religious disapproval from some quarters but we live with that easy enough.
Good for you and well done! I can only imagine the experience of it.
There won't be any children, so perhaps the strictures will be more 'relaxed' than if there were to be children and the need to 'protect' the religion's future. She is, utterly loveable, firm headed and steely. She is choosing me and I don't want to lose her.