I'm so upset, afraid and exhausted.
My DP and I have been best friends for over 15 years and only got together 3 years ago. He proposed at the end of October 2016. We've been trying to conceive for 18 months, and long story short had our concerns confirmed at the end of December 2016 that he is infertile and we can't have a natural pregnancy. We can have ICSI, but I need to lose a substantial amount of weight before we can go this route.
We have a dog, who we got in November. He does most things with her, as he takes her to work with him every day (military). He feels in not pulling my weight with her, just when I took her for a 3 hour WALK ON Saturday, he complained that I'd gone off without him. He was out on his motorbike riding with a friend.
He has been on 3 weeks leave until today, but I couldn't take all that time off to be with him, so have been out at work during the week (mostly office hours). He's been bored and is complaining that I've worked too late (home about 6pm) and we've done nothing together.
He won't talk to me about the fertility issues and how he feels, but we have talked about the options - IVF, adoption and or living child free.
Yesterday he had a massive meltdown, and admitted he had been thinking of leaving me. He wants me to go find someone else who can "give me what I want". But I don't want that. I want him, and if that means no kids, then so be it.
What on earth do I do now? All I want to do is sob and hide under the duvet, but it's not an option.
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VivienneWestwoodsKnickers · 09/01/2017 11:10
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