Hi,
We've been together 18 years, married 14 years, 2 children etc. For a long time - as far back as I can remember, his sex drive has been really low. We had to have IVF so I excused it due to that (ttc for 6+ years) then pregnancy/breastfeeding/toddlers etc.
There is no 'excuse' now. We have sex when I instigate it, maybe once every other month (in between that I've attempted to instigate sex and been refused, so left it) - but over the years I've stopped instigating it because he's pushed me away so many times and I didn't want to be coming on to him when he didn't want it etc. I also lost a lot of my confidence and just feel that he doesn't find me attractive. We have talked about this extensively and he seems bewildered that I feel this way.
I think I could deal with the lack of sex if there was affection. There isn't. We haven't had sex in maybe 4 months now. Tonight I decided to make a move ... seemed positive but he wanted to watch a programme on tv so suggested we Dtd after. As soon as the programme finished, he came down with a very painful jaw ache so couldn't possibly have sex.
He doesn't fancy me does he?
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Lack of sex drive (his).
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Sloegin2 · 09/01/2017 00:00
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