DP and I have been together for a long time. Nearly a decade. We were young when we got together and two years ago spent 9 months apart; it wasn't working and we were making each other unhappy. He left our rented home and moved in with his parents.
We are a million times better now but don't live together yet. If I'm honest I believed it was a matter of time; and hadn't invited him back. He's here a lot anyway, and he pays 1/8th of the rent as he pays nothing at home and this wasn't planned. All good. We holiday together, spend all our time together, Christmas etc... we are happy.
Yesterday he told me he can now buy a house under the new buy scheme with the money he's saved from not paying much rent. He wants to do it alone; though - he wants us to choose when we live together and so initially wants to move by himself. He said he loves me and things are millions of times better than they were but this is how he feels. I was really hurt - and he's worsened it by starting conversations about which furniture I want to keep. Presumably he'll stop paying any rent here when he's moved too; and our tenancy renews next month for a year. I'd stretch myself with that extra eighth, stupid as it sounds, I've just gone self employed.
I feel really hurt. He was asking when my tenancy was up (he knows, really) so I'd expected him to ask then... to move on his own feels like such a statement, even if I do help choose where he lives. He's planning to move in the Summer.
Is it me? Do I say anything? I don't know how to verbalise it. My world feels shaken.
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IfItsNotAlrightItsNotTheEnd · 08/01/2017 10:08
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