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Please help me to get over emotional affair,please

(12 Posts)
troubledsoul12 Sat 07-Jan-17 08:41:01

I feel like someone drained last piece of sanity and heart from me .

Deadsouls Sat 07-Jan-17 08:43:54

More information is needed

troubledsoul12 Sat 07-Jan-17 08:45:12

I am broken... Ask me anything you wish to know

Skang Sat 07-Jan-17 08:47:30

You've not said anything about what's happened? Or even who has had the emotional affair?

Deadsouls Sat 07-Jan-17 08:48:12

Well you need to put some context in the post, otherwise it's difficult to respond. I'm not going to ask specific questions.

troubledsoul12 Sat 07-Jan-17 08:55:12

I am sorry's me which basically makes me the guilty one but I just couldn't stop it when I knew I should .
We met a year ago , both married with children . We had in common many things including both our relationships hit the rock bottom .
We agreed it will stay as it was , no physical contact , I guess it was just more as a comfort to myself that I was not doing anything wrong, that I wasn't cheating on my lovely husband ...but i was And i knew that but i was flattered , couldn't stop myself . It felt Good , réal good ...

Is it normal to feel this way? To feel like I lost half of me?
I had my heart broken long ago but this feels worse , like I am suddenly in the dark tunnel and looking for a light that I just can't see

troubledsoul12 Sat 07-Jan-17 08:56:17

I probably don't make much sense

QuiltedAloeVera Sat 07-Jan-17 08:58:03

Figure out what the emotional affair was giving you that was otherwise missing in your life. Then fill that gap.

So - he* made you feel pretty - make more effort with your appearance
He made you laugh - watch some comedy/go out to a comedy gig
He was someone to talk to - go through your address book and arrange to see as many people as possible over the next three weeks.
It was exciting - volunteer to do a charity sky-dive.

If you are currently in a relationship, think very carefully about whether you wish to remain in it.

It helps to stay busy - get Marie Kondo's book and declutter your home.

*Major sex-based assumption, I know. Sorry everyone.

QuiltedAloeVera Sat 07-Jan-17 08:58:52


How's your marriage these days?

Alfiemoon1 Sat 07-Jan-17 09:47:14

Does your husband know about it ? Are u still on contact with the other person if not who broke contact? You either need to address the issues in your marriage that lead to u having the affair or call it a day it's not fair on your dh I am on the other side to u trying to deal with my dh emotional affair not that he will even admit that's what it was

sweetbabboo Sat 07-Jan-17 11:39:47

I realised that I didn't even like my EA bloke, and I didn't miss him. It's the hundreds of messages, the 'good morning beautiful, sleep well?' message that would be waiting for me every morning. Looking back I think where did I find the bloody time, but never the less, it feel very lonely now there is nothing.
You'll get through it troubled. I did.

Dollius01 Sat 07-Jan-17 11:52:26

What does the OM want and what do you want?

Ask yourself and be completely honest-is this real or a symptom of your marriage being at rock bottom?

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