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(6 Posts)
Gvwxy Fri 06-Jan-17 23:17:40

Sorry its a long post my oh told me in July that he is no longer in live with me. Then he told me he don't know what he wants so we have stayed the same then on Tuesday we was talking and he said on that this Monday coming he would go and move in with his mum and dad to give us some space.but wort be able to pick lad up from nursery while I'm at work. So I give my notice as without him I cart work.so I told him that I have give my notice then he said well what makes you think I'm going.he missed is girl bd due to being in pub with his work mates and all he seems to care about is him self I'm leafy to do 99% of the child care he as no rights to house should I just tell him to move out as I don't know if we can go on like this much longer I'm just not sure what to do and would like some advice please

HerOtherHalf Fri 06-Jan-17 23:21:53

Only you can decide but ask yourself what, if anything, you're getting out of this relationship. It doesnt sound like you're getting much other than uncertainty, unreliability and a steady erosion of your self-esteem.

RedastheRose Fri 06-Jan-17 23:24:56

Tell him to go to his parents, never mind him, you need some space then have a think about what you want! Wouldn't give up your job without exploring other options first though, a job gives you a sense of respect and self worth and outside adult contact which you will need without a partner at home. Speak to the jobcentre or social security people explain your childcare issues and see if they can help with funding for after school care etc. Good luck.

pog100 Fri 06-Jan-17 23:25:22

You sound really unhappy and I am not surprised, given the way he is messing you about. You don't say if you are married and what your financial situation is, but I suspect you are going to be happier without him than with him and should work towards that.

Gvwxy Fri 06-Jan-17 23:32:59

Sorry should of said that we are not married I do feel so alone as my mum died 18 months ago and got no family close or friends that I can talk two really don't want to give up work but I only do 6 hours a week so not sure if job center can or will even help me

RedastheRose Sat 07-Jan-17 00:07:01

Might be worth asking them anyway or perhaps looking for more hours or another job with hours that fit in with nursery/school. You don't sound happy at all and he sounds like he is just thinking about himself and what he wants. You can go to relate on your own for counselling to help you see the issues and work through why you are letting him treat you like that. That may make you strong enough to decide what is best for you and your children.

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