Sorry if this ends up reading like a weird thread.
A family who are quite middle class insofar as income, home, holidays are concerned, but the wife is from a very difficult background. There is a large extended family in the wife's background - cousins and aunts and so on.
The husband and wife try for children years without success. Husband is happy to have a child free life but the wife is determined to have children. They are looking into adoption and then have two children, a boy and a girl.
After having her children the wife seems to find it hard. She rarely, if ever, plays with them. She screams a lot and both children are quite frightened of her. They spend most of the time with their father and they are very happy when this is the case. the wife uses her own cousins and aunts to look after her children regularly, and they seem to resent this and take it out on the children. However, the wife does love the children.
She drinks heavily and is dismissed from work for drinking there and being drunk in front of a class (she is a school teacher.)
She is volatile and will scream how ashamed she is of her children, how they disgust her, how she wishes they were other children (she will talk about other children a lot and tell her own children exactly why they are much better than her own) but also cuddle them and say she loves them.
She will lash out when angry, and both her children try to kill themselves before they are 13.
What's wrong with her?
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Can I ask you what you think might have caused this?
January2017 · 06/01/2017 16:31
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