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I think this may be the end

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Shutthatdoor12 · 05/01/2017 12:49

I thought I loved my dp, we have a dd together but lately he really winds me up. He mopes about and hardly does anything with dd. Yes he works and we have a nice house a car each and live in a lovely place, but I can't help but feel like I've fallen out of love with him.

He has become grumpy and I can feel myself being really down in the dumps. I try to lift the mood- make nice meals/cups of tea etc. We have had issues with our sex life due to problems after the birth of my dd, but to be honest I just can't be arsed.

He makes comments and makes me feel bad if I don't stay up late/drink but he's not good company and again I can't be arsed. I'd rather watch to in bed on my own.

Have I fallen out of love with him? Should we just call it a day. There's no arguing I think we have just drifted apart. He walked out before and said he'd had enough, I've done nothing wrong today and he was in a foul mood when he got up. He's text me short messages about a delivery. I just think this might be the end. I don't feel sad or bad or anything. Can someone advise me please Confused

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5subjectnotebook · 05/01/2017 13:23

Would you consider relationship counselling first? Either together or separately?

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TheNaze73 · 05/01/2017 13:24

Sounds like you've both fallen out of the relationship.

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LostSight · 05/01/2017 13:29

What is he grumpy about? Does he complain about specific things? Is he mean to you? Or do you think you and he have just drifted apart?

What happened before when he walked out? Did he just come back, or did you persuade him? Did you consider getting counselling at that point?

You sound as if you don't feel it's worth trying to fix it. If you have a young child, and there is no abusive behaviour owing on, might it be worth trying to work on it with him? It's difficult to form an opinion from your post.

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InfoFreako · 05/01/2017 13:33

I think you should explore other avenues (e.g. counseling) before deciding you definitely want to separate. I'm sure lots of couples go through the scenario that you described.

I guess it depends on how much you want to work at things. Also, think about life post-DH (custody of DD, finances, etc.)

Cheers.

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Shutthatdoor12 · 05/01/2017 13:52

Yes would go to councilling. He moans mainly about me/my health issues, without outing myself I have had horrendous bleeding for 2 years after the birth of my dd and has effected both of us as you can guess. He also gets grumpy over kids being noisy when he's in bed, he only gets one day off a week on a Sunday. We tend to do something as a family and then he often has a few drinks in the afternoon. This winds me up as I am at home with dd all the time and never get a break. I don't drink he wants me to.
We generally get on most of the time but have a spat about once every 6 months and very rarely argue, I'm very laid back run round like a mad thing looking after dcs (I have another dc to previous partner) doing house etc. Maybe it's just that time of year. He's just text me saying he loves me. Life feel so tricky sometimes.

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Shutthatdoor12 · 05/01/2017 13:54

LostSight

Yes that is exactly how I feel. How can I change that. I deeply love him and we are actually a good couple. Just a few hard times I suppose

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Buttonsxx · 05/01/2017 14:20

Is thr anyone that can watch the kids maybe one night every few weeks so you can make a regular date night? Go for a nice dinner or a movie or a comedy night ect try and put a bit of fun back in to the relationship! Don't just be mum and dad have some fun! Don't just sit and have a drink and get a board game, start a box set you would both love have a little drink watching that.

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Shutthatdoor12 · 05/01/2017 14:30

Not really no, we tend to go out once every 3 months tbh. And the kids go to a family members and we go out. But it has ended in disaster sometimes. I think I need to try harder but I don't now where to start

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