Sorry for the length of this post, but would really appreciate advice based on the whole situation.
I Know a guy in real life who started taking an interest in me, sending me unnecessary texts (texts were functional due to a certain hobby we are connected through) and after I was more chatty back he asked me for a drink. I was agreeable to this but we did not firm things up but he continued to ask. I am very attracted to him and eventually a child free night became available so I suggested we meet then. Texts escalated to several per day throughout the day.
As it was clear I was free the night before the originally planned date he asked me out for that and said if it goes well could then meet the next night too. I agreed to this as don't often have child free time.
First date went really well, lots of affection and got on well, snog at the end. Was talk of him coming in for a drink when he dropped me back off home but I called it a night at that point as was a bit worse for wear.
So next day we went out somewhere and had a nice time hand holding, he'd bought me flowers etc. At end of night he came in and we ended up having sex which was v good. Cuddles in the night, nice conversation and morning sex too. I had work so he had to leave but as was saying bye he said would sort out going out again soon.
Since then his texts have noticeably declined. Previously he had always been first to initiate chat but as his contact has reduced I have started off some comms but they are very short replies, no real chat or attempt to get to know me more.
The odd bit of contact has been quite positive -said he missed me, another time that he really wants to see me but when I said yes let's sort it out there is no further discussion of another date etc.
So I am wondering what to do. Common advice seems to be to let the guy do the chasing. But I do want him to know I would like a repeat. But don't want to make a fool of myself or scare him off and see him regularly due to the hobby.
So I have posted here for traffic, to text or leave it to him? He seemed to be really in to the idea of it developing into something before we dtd and I was the one saying let's see how it goes. We dtd within the last week.
Do you think this sounds like he was just trying to get one thing? I would be really happy to hear all your honest opinions of this situation as don't want to ruin things.
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Action or playing it cool after dtd?
Cooloraction · 04/01/2017 09:33
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