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Is it time to call it a day?

(9 Posts)
isthismylife88 Mon 02-Jan-17 21:32:22

I just want to know if others experience similar issues or should I call it a day.
Is it possible he does love me?
So 8 years together, 1 house and 2 children.
I love my partner but I'm still not sure he feels the same. I want to feel loved and wanted!
Before I continue I want you to know the issues I'm going to discuss have been issue since we first started dating.

First off my man never tells me he loves me, he can't give compliments and doesn't know how to be affectionate and loving. I always though if I was loving and affectionate to him, it would lift his confidence and he could learn from me. Boy was wrong!
Second he suffers for delayed ejaculation we didn't successfully have sex till 6 months into our relationship ship over time things have improved but he can only make him self cum which makes me feel useless and he often give limp.
Third he never wants sex, I get rejected about 3 out of 4 times I ask. When we do have sex I have to come to him and I'm always on top.
He masterbates regularly which upset me because I feel he would rather do that than have sex with me.
I once had a dildo but he really wasn't happy about the fact I had one let alone used it so put it in the bin.
Iv have tried to talk to him about it but tells me he know where I am coming from and he knows he should try harder, he tell me what I want to hear I think just to shut me up but doesn't make an effort.
He always blames it on his confidence yet he will happily walk in the bathroom and have a number 2 infront of me or walk around the house in his dressing gown when people are round?? I don't dare do that!
He's still hasn't proposed or doesn't seem to care?
Iv become bitter, resentful, a nag maybe a little obsessed with wondering with if I should leave
In the last couple of month we have been quite stressed and are really sort tempered and rude ish to each other which I don't like around the kids

TimeToChangeFor2017 Mon 02-Jan-17 21:36:54

Bloody hell, he's horrible! Could you afford to live separately?

ferriswheel Mon 02-Jan-17 21:39:21

Why would you not get rid of him?

StiffenedPleat Tue 03-Jan-17 00:49:25

What's in this for you? He sounds quite unpleasant.

bert3400 Tue 03-Jan-17 01:03:29

He sounds horrible . Why would you accept him shitting in front of you ? ...that is bollocks and would have me walking away immediately . Also wtf, he has no right to tell you not to use a dildo, especially as he can't satisfy your needs. I would buy 10 and use them all at once, in front of him !! Why are you still with him ?

lovelyshinyhair Tue 03-Jan-17 01:11:08

"He still hasn't proposed"....

Thank God!!!

Marilynsbigsister Tue 03-Jan-17 03:54:57

If you wanted a proposal I think you will have to ask him ! Very few men will propose after babies have arrived.

Legally marriage benefits the woman as she has the time away from career to have babies and marriage protects her financially) There isn't so much gain in it for a man - except smart women won't have babies before marriage. (If that's what they want) so if a bloke wants children and his partner won't agree without a wedding to safeguard her financially and legally then he has no option but to agree or walk..

But tbh he doesn't sound much of a catch.

hellsbellsmelons Tue 03-Jan-17 09:56:17

Ahh... a porn hound with big fat 'death grip' issues!
Nice..!! NOT.
Blimey, he brings nothing to this for you.
Get him gone.

No way would my OH have a shit in front of me.

AttilaTheMeerkat Tue 03-Jan-17 10:04:57

What do you get out of this relationship now?. What has kept you tied to this most unattractive of porn hounds?.

What is there to love about this man or are you confusing love with co-dependency?.

What do you think you are also teaching your children about relationships here; that this is their "norm" too?. Its no legacy to be leaving them it really is not.

He will never propose to you either.

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