ah yes, that one.
I have done a small cull on friendships this year (and really relate to the thread re. having few or no friends!). I won't bore you with the details, but I am basically relieved.
I just wondered how to deal with the last one that needs to go, or possibly change.
I have known her a long time I guess - 15 years. So we have some history, which is nice. I don't see her often - she lives over an hour away from me . We don't even speak much on the phone .
She has some good qualities. Intelligent. Can be good fun. A bit different perhaps, like me.
But in her company I soon wilt with her "me, me, me" attitude. She can go on literally for ages about the minutae of her life, before suddenly remembering that maybe it would nice to give me some space to talk about mine. Not that she's interested really, just being polite. I find my self saying very little of consequences, as she's not really listening anyway. She does big herself up a bit (I'm thinking some narcissistic traits) but she's not a bad person. Just somewhat selfish and very self-involved.
Luckily our friendship has cooled recently after a small argument, so I am pleased about that. We haven't seen each other for months. She did ring me yesterday to wish me a happy new year, which was nice, as an old friend. But 3 minutes into the conversation I get that familiar feeling like I can't listen any more! Its nearly all "me, me, me".
I'm not sure exactly what I'm asking or saying. I think maybe a distant friendship might work, without the trauma of "ending" something. That we can still stay in touch, without having to be close!
Anyone experienced anything similar? had any thoughts?
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StripeyCover · 02/01/2017 15:40
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