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Swinging

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Sisba Mon 02-Jan-17 01:08:36

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JustHereForThePooStories Mon 02-Jan-17 01:12:37

Please get yourself tested for STIs tomorrow.

OliviaBensonOnAGoodDay Mon 02-Jan-17 01:20:48

This happened to a friend of mine - she found out a few weeks after giving birth to their first. Her partner had been visiting swinging clubs for months and 'servicing' (the word they used in his reviews!) both men and women. She had absolutely no idea and was sent screenshots of his reviews anonymously. It was absolutely awful and she was devastated.

They've worked it out, they're still together, although I will say not particularly happy. Just posting to say it does happen, and that your health and safety should come first above all else - agree with PP about STI tests, however you choose to proceed. Have you got anyone in real life to support you?

Sisba Mon 02-Jan-17 01:21:25

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Sisba Mon 02-Jan-17 01:24:07

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Sisba Mon 02-Jan-17 01:26:01

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GlobalTechIndustries Mon 02-Jan-17 01:27:58

sometimes we can never truly know our friend\partners as well as we think we know them.

OliviaBensonOnAGoodDay Mon 02-Jan-17 01:28:04

I can imagine OP flowers

His reaction seems odd to me - if someone sent my DP lies about me I'd be incandescent and I'd want to get to the bottom of it - but only you know if that's typical for him. At the very least I think he should be trying to reassure you and making sure you're not worried or upset.

OliviaBensonOnAGoodDay Mon 02-Jan-17 01:28:58

Is there anyone who would try to make trouble? Has anything like this happened before? Those are the questions I'd think about in your shoes.

Milklollies Mon 02-Jan-17 01:30:03

Dump and run! You aren't trapped by a child so I say thank god you found out now!

StiffenedPleat Mon 02-Jan-17 01:31:29

It's a shame you confronted him. Perhaps you should have arranged to meet him via the swingers site.

Milklollies Mon 02-Jan-17 01:32:08

On second thought- Test him? Tell him if it's something he's into than you're into it too? Lie through your teeth until you get the truth! Tell Him you're distraught that he didn't have the trust to tell you himself. See how it goes.

Sisba Mon 02-Jan-17 01:34:13

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OliviaBensonOnAGoodDay Mon 02-Jan-17 01:38:26

You can trust some men OP, honestly. You deserve to meet someone who can change your mind on that one.

Sisba Mon 02-Jan-17 01:39:31

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Sisba Mon 02-Jan-17 01:40:14

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Sisba Mon 02-Jan-17 01:41:44

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Sisba Mon 02-Jan-17 01:45:11

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Littleballerina Mon 02-Jan-17 01:48:42

Is the profile still there? if so can you do some digging on places and times according to feedback?

Sisba Mon 02-Jan-17 02:00:30

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StiffenedPleat Mon 02-Jan-17 02:21:47

Your partner deleted the message off your phone?

Sisba Mon 02-Jan-17 02:24:23

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GloveBug Mon 02-Jan-17 02:26:26

Was the profile removed before or after you confronted your DP? Why did he delete the message from your phone?

GloveBug Mon 02-Jan-17 02:26:42

Sorry xpost

Sisba Mon 02-Jan-17 02:30:07

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