What you say EngTech.
I moved away from two different areas in the past 8 years and neither friend (and they were really really good friends - I thought) made the effort to keep in touch with me, apparently I had to do it all.
Then I have people who I consider good acquaintances or whom I've worked with and I've got meals out sorted and so on - but since I switched jobs and also didn't make any efforts to organise nights out, there have been no nights out! And I bet the two colleagues I'm thinking about met up just them!
I even tried - oh dang this senile dementia, can't remember the name of it - it's a group that does activities every week, it'll come to me. But you go and leave and everyone just goes off in their own direction either with the friend they came with (salt, wounds) or on their own or back to their flatmates or DP. Same with Parkrun - had conversations there but no one ever says oh Pollyanna, you're a right laugh, shall we have a glass of wine (male or female!!).
EngTech you have made me laugh.
You know, if I had a true friend I wouldn't really be bothered about trying to find a man, a loose 'resolution' I've made for this year! I'm actually having to switch my thinking around say to myself well, you can't make a friend, perhaps you can meet a bloke instead. And since we're on MN we all know what a cesspool or choice there is out there and how unlikely it is that we will ever meet that person that's meant for us, decent but not completely boring or shit in bed. So really, I've got no answers.
I just find everywhere I go, everyone is already friended up and has history. Sadly where I live is not a magnet for ex pats or folk with the mindset of people like that who go out of their way to chat and make friends without agenda or previous loyalties.
I work in hospitals filled with Drs and Consultants - 99% of which you wouldn't touch with barge pole, and even the nice people (women) that I meet in the course of my work, no one ever seems to think old Polllyanna is a viable option to be mates with or go for a drink with - now tell me, am I using the wrong deoderant or what?
The problem Montane is looking or not looking, I'm still friendless .