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Two married men have asked me out on a date this week...

(31 Posts)
SniffleWhippets Sat 31-Dec-16 19:42:22

& I'm just shockhmm fuck off

One of them only lives 6 doors away... hmm

I have done nothing to encourage this...

Of course I said no. They seem to think a newly divorced woman is up for it.... One of them even had the balls to say 'I'll help you spend your settlement!' shockshock -No you won't ffs.

<walks off shaking head>

fallenempires Sat 31-Dec-16 19:54:18

Uggh horrible! I had this too & was told 'you must be gagging for it as you're divorced now!' shock

BubblingUp Sat 31-Dec-16 20:03:22

I get this constantly as well and I am in my 50s and long time celibate. Sometimes they are far younger than me! They are so predicable in their seduction techniques it's hilarious.

YetAnotherUser Sat 31-Dec-16 20:09:37

Should have said yes... Then told their wives.

Everstrong Sat 31-Dec-16 20:36:23

There must be something in the air, my married work colleague cracked on to me.

He knows I'm married.

Wtf is wrong with these men?!

Nellyphants Sat 31-Dec-16 20:37:49

Well you're newly divorced, bet you're gagging for it. They're doing you a favour you ungrateful wrench

LockedOutOfMN Sat 31-Dec-16 20:43:32

Sorry to hear that, OP. A friend of mine does online dating and is regularly asked out by married men.

Trooperslane Sat 31-Dec-16 20:45:19


(Them, obv).

NancyJoan Sat 31-Dec-16 20:48:57

Ugh. Have often heard about this. What on earth do they think they are doing?!

Shayelle Sat 31-Dec-16 20:49:42

Horrible. I still lie at workand say im partnered up. (As I work with mostly blokes and a lot of them are creepy and get all pervy otherwise). I feel your pain!! confused

8FencingWire Sat 31-Dec-16 21:08:21

God, I 'lost' a very old friend to this type of behaviour!!!
I've known him since I was a teen. I split up with H, went to this party and he just hit on me. Apparently he needs some fun in his life. I initially thought he's being funny. WTF???!!
He texted me afterwards too, to reiterate.
Idiot. I'm telling his wife next time I see her.

LockedOutOfMN Sat 31-Dec-16 21:12:27

Good for you, 8FencingWire!

Has anyone heard of a married woman coming onto a newly single / separated / divorced male friend or colleague?

BumDNC Sat 31-Dec-16 21:41:09

Has happened to me many times

Carlinamoon1 Sat 31-Dec-16 23:29:59

Yes this happens to me on a regular basis and started as soon as I separated a year ago. This is precisely why I would never consider getting married again!

oldfatandtired1 Sat 31-Dec-16 23:32:45

Oh, me too. I'm 55, two years divorced and very happy with my new life. A girlfriend tells me it's because I look 'available' now I'm divorced. Quite happy to be 'available' but only to fellow divorcees, widowers or singles thank you!

Inexperiencedchick Sun 01-Jan-17 00:35:15

"I'm married and I can offer you a place of a second wife"

That what I've been offered in 2016 😂

He went to hell with the help of my mouth 😉

MotherTeresasCat Sun 01-Jan-17 00:43:10

Happens a lot. I'm long term single but still get married men trying their luck. Some bloke turned up at my front door once with a mahoosive bunch of pink roses, asking if I wanted to go for a coffee. Turned out he lived with his wife just round the corner.

SheFeedsYouTeaAndOranges Sun 01-Jan-17 08:22:06

Brace yourself for it. It's going to get worse.

Friends' husbands; married friends of friends; colleagues...

I've been single for 4 years now and it doesn't stop.

It's appalling.

Fumbledore Sun 01-Jan-17 19:11:31

A married woman came onto me, we were having a few pints at the pub, she was a former work colleague I got on well with. Her DH had just gone to the loo. hmm

I've politely avoided her since. Yes she knew I was married.

nicenewdusters Sun 01-Jan-17 19:30:26

Yep, I've had the odd inappropriate comment from friend's dh's since I became single, including being told he was glad I was "back on the market". Quickly told him I was on nobody's market. No surprise that I know (he doesn't) that he cheated on his wife with their neighbour.

Had a "drunken" text a few weeks ago from a close friend's partner. Apparently he thought I'd be flattered to know he'd like to kiss me, and would I like to go for a coffee? No, piss off.

Makes me look very hmm at a lot of men now.

SamanthaBrique Sun 01-Jan-17 19:36:44

Given past experiences, I am now convinced that, if they knew there was absolutely no chance they'd get caught, almost all married men would cheat.

TheNaze73 Sun 01-Jan-17 19:37:15

Sadly, it's not just married men that do this.

A cheat is a cheat, whatever their sex

SamanthaBrique Sun 01-Jan-17 19:38:24

Sorry, yes, I meant men in relationships in general.

QueenoftheAndals Sun 01-Jan-17 19:39:32

He went to hell with the help of my mouth 😉

The mind boggles!!

GoodEyebrowDay Sun 01-Jan-17 21:21:24

Been with DH for almost 7 years & not a whiff of an advancement from anyone else

Don't know whether to be sad or relieved grin

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