I am so upset right now, but am aware that I may also be over reacting to lots of things.
I am one of 5 girls, & we have 3 brothers.
Our father suffers heart problems & for the past 2 weekends he has been in casualty being monitered as he has chest pains. About 8 yrs ago he had a massive heart attack & has been on various tablets ever since.
Anyway, he had to go in for dye tests to see if there were blockages in his heart, we knew he was on the waiting list but I didn't know if he had a date for the tests or not. Then on Friday morning I got a text from my sis saying her dh had taken dad to hosp for the tests & sis was bringing him home... first I knew he had the date!!
[I had been texting my mum earlier to say I had passed an exam & she replied saying well done, see you next week, but hadn't mentioned my dad going into hosp, they are seperated but close & live next door to each other]
I text my sister saying I hadn't even known he was for the hosp. Later the sis who picked him up text me to say he was out, tired & sore but he had 2 bad blockages & needs a bypass. I was so angry I replied saying I'm glad she felt I had the right to know that seeing as no-one felt I had the right to know he was in hosp. She enevr replied. I called my mum who said I might have forgotten he was goin in that day.. I hadn't forgotten, I was never told in the first place. Anyway, my other sis said she thought I knew or would have told me herself, she said I was there in my other sis kitceh when they discussed it [I wasn't even there that day as my other sis confirmed later]
Anyway, I had sort of got over that, just felt a litle out of the loop... then today my older sis texted me to say her son was ok now, & that she was glad to be out of the hosp.... first I even knew she & nephew were in hosp Nephew suffers from infections in chest & throat a lot & sis worries sick about him.
I sent a text saying "ffs, I am so sick of this!! No-one ever tells me anything!! I am sorry I wasn't there for you, I wish I had've known"
Turns out she had no mobile with her & she does have a crap memory, she called one of my sis at home & told her to pass the msg on to everyone...she had..but not to me.So basically all of them knew [& the one who lives about 5 mins from me] but no-one thought to tell me I feel so shit.
She said don't blame the rest of them, she was to blame for not getting money in her phone to call/text me.. but IMO she had enough on her plate, & some of the other 3 girls should have let me know.
I just feel like no-body tells me anything & I want to know why!!
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My crappy family make me want to cry!!
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fireflyfairy2 · 20/02/2007 17:44
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