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My partner is annoying & does idiotic things.

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user1479512536 Fri 30-Dec-16 16:15:15

Sorry if the title sounds harsh, but I really am at my wits end with my partner. We have a 2 year old son and he is doing a very intensive university course (which I don't want him to fail), these two things are pretty much what are keeping me with him at the moment. We live with my parents at the moment which only makes things more unbearable.

My partner constantly does irritating and illogical things, and is so stubborn that he will not listen to anybody who tries to tell him why it is illogical or stupid.

For a few examples, in the last couple of months he has:

- Repeatedly used bleach to clean the bath (despite being told by both myself and my mother not to do so). The bath now needs re-enamelling which will cost around £400.

- Continuously putting hangers on the picture rails, even though I have told him it leaves marks on the wall.

- We are currently having to sleep on a blow up bed, and rather than putting the blow up bed behind the sofa each day to create space, he insists on letting the air out and re-blowing it up each night.

- Picks his nose and the dead skin off his foot despite me saying how gross and unattractive it makes him seem.

These are only some of the many examples of things that he does that irritate me. My family all think he is hopeless and annoying sad. It has got to the point where everything he does really gets on my nerves. I don't want to sound like a b****, but we have no sex life, he was addicted to porn at one point and I just feel like there is nothing left for me to be happy about in our relationship. So much so that every little thing he does annoys me.

Has anybody got a partner like this?

TurnipCake Fri 30-Dec-16 16:20:40

I hope he offered to pay for the bath shock

IHeartKingThistle Fri 30-Dec-16 16:24:56

I think the bigger picture is that you're not in love with him any more.

My DH does equally annoying things but he's also a great husband and we love each other. The porn would be a big issue for me. If you feel like there's nothing for you to be happy about in your relationship that's a bigger problem than the picture rails.

I mean this kindly. Does he know you feel like this?

cloudchasing Fri 30-Dec-16 16:35:23

Aren't these the things that piss you off about everyone you live with though? My DP and DC drive me mad with stupid shit like this, but I'm sure I do loads of stuff that they hate too.

cloudchasing Fri 30-Dec-16 16:36:12

Plus, I love them all madly. So it's worth putting up with this stuff for all the positive stuff.

Planetarymagic1 Fri 30-Dec-16 16:39:39

What is the deal with the blow up bed?

BlueFolly Fri 30-Dec-16 17:20:47

To be fair, the things he's doing don't sound that bad.

AnyFucker Fri 30-Dec-16 17:25:15

You don't even like him. Relationship over, surely ?

Everybody has stuff that irritates them on a superficial level, but you sound like you have no respect for him at all

He also sounds really, really stupid. That would be a deal breaker for me too

Scaffleen Fri 30-Dec-16 17:26:16

My DH does bloody annoying things but that's who he is. It really does sound like you've falling out of love with him if you can't get passed these annoyances.

PhilomenaCatLover Fri 30-Dec-16 17:38:42

I feel like many many people could make a list like this about their partner. I definitely know that DH could think of 4-5 things I do that annoy him - like leaving lids or bottle caps only partially screwed, and never emptying the coffee filter despite me being the one who drinks the coffee. But, if you like each other I think you probably try telling the other person off for it or put up with it but it doesn't frustrate you the way your partner's annoying habits seem to drive you up the wall.
It seems like they're more symptoms of a deeper falling out, with the lack of sex and porn addiction etc. If you genuinely don't even like him why are you with him?

clumsyduck Fri 30-Dec-16 17:47:18

My dp can be annoying as fuck ( as can I ) just stupid stuff but he's a good person and I'm completely in love with him

Sounds like you don't really love / like dp much anymore so everything he does annoys you!?

BumDNC Fri 30-Dec-16 17:51:09

This does come down to love. The people I love are so bloody annoying but I love them anyway. Once the love is gone it's harder to look past these things - they are all you can see

monicabling Fri 30-Dec-16 22:08:11

Imagining him blowing up the bed every night and then letting it out every morning made me laugh.

Just wondering if pushed do you think you could you make a list of things you love about him?

BraveDancing Fri 30-Dec-16 23:00:32

Oh, I definitely have a list of annoying things my DW does. And she has the same for me. Like...she would complain I forget to rinse plates before putting them in the dishwasher and I would complain she literally never manages to hoover because she hates the noise. But I still love her to bits. She's still my best friend.

I think that's not the point, though. Either the good outweighs the bad overall or it doesn't. And only you know if that is the case or not.

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