Hello ,
I've been with my husband for 16 years and have been in therapy with him and without him for many years too.
On many accounts there have been changes - individually and within our couple.
But, it is very hard work -especially during family get togethers.
So I have found Christmas very difficult with him. But I have worked hard at blocking his negativity and not being drawn by his manipulation. Now the kids are gone ( they're young adults) and I am glad they had a lovely time. But I'm not ok about celebrating New Year with my husband.
In the middle of his miserableness I gave him my limit and told him that I would accept no more of it. Either he stopped completely and we had a good New Year together after the kids had gone, or he didn't and I wouldn't want to celebrate New Year with him.
He stopped a bit. Then started again. So now that means no NY celebrations together.
I do feel lonely but I want to enjoy myself as much as possible and not crack so that he gets the upper hand and can keep on perpetuating his vicious cycle without question.
In January we will be seeing the therapists. But, between now and then, I don't want to behave as a victim.
I need your support.Thanks.
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New Year and my manipulative DH
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BonnyAnnie · 30/12/2016 10:01
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