I'm married, 2 children and in my ealry thirties. Dh and I have been together for nearly 11 years but married for nearly 3. Over the past 2 years DH and I have grown apart, I would say since the birth of our second child. He hasn't really bonded with DC2 and it seems as though we have one child each! He used to be good fun and very chilled but now he is constantly grumpy, he has always liked a drink but only really at weekends and not to the point where he was drunk IYSWIM? Now he drinks every day, probably 5-6 bottles a night of beer, probably doesn't seem much but every day I think its excessive. He also very quickly flips from good mood to bad mood and DC1 never knows if he is coming or going. DC1 absoloutely adores him and he is a good Dad, but never takes them out on his own like for a walk to the park or anything like I do with them. We don't argue we just don't speak much and I have got to the point now where I just don't love him. He can't understand that I can't accept being called a c* then refusing to have sex with him five minutes later. We went out at the weekend and instead of enjoying time with me and the kids he just listens to everyone else's conversations and slags them off, I'm so tired of hearing it, I don't care what other people are talking about so that starts another row! If it was just me I would walk but I can't stand the thought of the DC growing up without their Dad around. I have asked him to come to RELATE and he agrees but never gets round to going. He also slags off all of my family and friends. He moans that I should go out more then when I go out he warns me about going off with other men and won't talk to me. I just don't know what to do I'm at my wits end with him.
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